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"Holding a Grudge"

I hold a grudge. For a long time.

It'd be nice not to, to forgive, move on, etc etc.

If the begrudged person hasn't changed, isn't sorry and would do the same again, can you really 'forgive' as such?

And if you can't forgive, is the only way to shake a grudge to give up caring, which requires not caring about the person either?

Thoughts?

Not so much grudge... but it will take a lot for me to be friendly or trust whoever it is again.

Your mate sounds retarded. I would've made him pay for it all.

Due to my...

(see how veen-splentingly vexed I was)

I'll hold all my grudges until the end of my days. Anyone who has done something to offend me etc, has made a conscious choice to do so or is unable to make a conscious choice not to, or is simply stupid.

Example: a mate got our landlady to come round to our flat two weeks before we moved out, when it was a tip and we had more people staying in the flat then we should have; in order to assess the return of our damage deposit, once we depart.

Obviously anyone else in the entire world would ask the landlady to come round after we left (that's how you do that sort of thing) and not when the only person in the flat to meet the landlady is a French-Canadian stripper whom the landlady had never met before. Thus she saw the flat was a state (though undamaged) and thought that we were sub-letting...

To cut a long story short and before I vent my spleen: my mate's complete stupidity (please feel free to take the p*ss out of him) we all stand to pay out £460 each as the deposit was paid on our behalf. She's refurbished the flat at our expense and has charged us for anything she could think of.

So I could forgive my mate (any holiday I could have afforded this year is now taken away from me) and I probably will. But I will still hold this grudge against him for all eternity and perhaps beyond.

And mention it every other week down the pub.

MoJoJoJo wrote:
> I always say "Right, I won't talk to them" or whatever. But
> it never lasts, usually the person I swore I'd hit next time I saw
> them is one of the first people I talk to when seeing everybody. I may
> forgive, but I never forget.
>

*Turns into bubbles the powerpuff girl

You must really hate me for all those times Ive foiled your eeeevil plans heh heh heh heh heh heh <--Super sweet voice

I always say "Right, I won't talk to them" or whatever. But it never lasts, usually the person I swore I'd hit next time I saw them is one of the first people I talk to when seeing everybody. I may forgive, but I never forget.

*dun dun dun duuuuuun... dun dun*

It doesnt take much for me to dislike someone, i can hold a grudge against people like that for, well forever.

you could roll them up in a carpet and throw them down some stairs

*childish sniggering*

No one has wronged me bad enough for me to yet hold a grudge, but if someone did something bad enough [and I'm not sure what that would have to be], I think I would begin to draw up the plans for my revenge.

i hold grudges, but it takes a lot for someone to pish me off