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Well a life of being me is really harsh. Sometimes i kick around the floor head in my hands thinking i wish it all would end. Then there are the happy times.
Basically i am another troubled youngster.
I live in a house with my two sisters my older brother and my mum and dad. I have no bedroom, so i sleep in my living room. People walk through every five minutes, so i have no privacy, my stuff is all over the place and i am always nagged at to tidy it up.
My mother will always scream and shout about anything. It is a pity really because she is a really nice woman but i have lost count of the amount of times she has gone off on one just because there is "water splashes on the bathroom mirror".
My dad is ok. He tries to interact with me and to show his effection but he has bad timing and usualy comes to see me when i am really upset. Sometimes this can hlep but most of the time it just makes me feel worse.
I haven't spoke to my brother in over a year and it looks like we will never talk again. What a waste, i know and a ral pity as well. I can remember the great times when we would play multi player Perfect Dark and we would laugh and joke and really have a great time. But that is all gone and i really miss it.
My sisters are highly annoying and usualy either break my things or get me so mad i start to smash things up.
Some of my friends decide it is fun to always use me as their comic relief and it is really depressing how i am always pushed around and looked down upon and generally ridiculed.
School is hard at the moment. I have about 4 courseworks which are now late and i am constantly being told i am under achieving. GCSE's are starting in just a matter of weeks and i still have not started to revise.
But then again lets look on the bright side.
I have some really great friends on these forums and out there in the town i live. I am lucky enoguh to be fed and to actually have somewhere to live. There are people that care for me even thoguh i don't feel they do.
But I still can't help letting it drag me down. . .
Basically i am another troubled youngster.
I live in a house with my two sisters my older brother and my mum and dad. I have no bedroom, so i sleep in my living room. People walk through every five minutes, so i have no privacy, my stuff is all over the place and i am always nagged at to tidy it up.
My mother will always scream and shout about anything. It is a pity really because she is a really nice woman but i have lost count of the amount of times she has gone off on one just because there is "water splashes on the bathroom mirror".
My dad is ok. He tries to interact with me and to show his effection but he has bad timing and usualy comes to see me when i am really upset. Sometimes this can hlep but most of the time it just makes me feel worse.
I haven't spoke to my brother in over a year and it looks like we will never talk again. What a waste, i know and a ral pity as well. I can remember the great times when we would play multi player Perfect Dark and we would laugh and joke and really have a great time. But that is all gone and i really miss it.
My sisters are highly annoying and usualy either break my things or get me so mad i start to smash things up.
Some of my friends decide it is fun to always use me as their comic relief and it is really depressing how i am always pushed around and looked down upon and generally ridiculed.
School is hard at the moment. I have about 4 courseworks which are now late and i am constantly being told i am under achieving. GCSE's are starting in just a matter of weeks and i still have not started to revise.
But then again lets look on the bright side.
I have some really great friends on these forums and out there in the town i live. I am lucky enoguh to be fed and to actually have somewhere to live. There are people that care for me even thoguh i don't feel they do.
But I still can't help letting it drag me down. . .
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I'll talk to you on msn mate, sorry I wasn't on most of yesterday I was really ill and in bed! I'll speak to you whenever you come online, and if I ain't online then text me and I will come on to talk. Take care dude.
Parr wrote:
"But then again lets look on the bright side.
I have some really great friends on these forums and out there in the town i live. I am lucky enoguh to be fed and to actually have somewhere to live. There are people that care for me even thoguh i don't feel they do."
That's one of the good things about these forums, there are people here who can write really nice things and make you feel a little better and really cheer you up.
"But then again lets look on the bright side.
I have some really great friends on these forums and out there in the town i live. I am lucky enoguh to be fed and to actually have somewhere to live. There are people that care for me even thoguh i don't feel they do."
That's one of the good things about these forums, there are people here who can write really nice things and make you feel a little better and really cheer you up.
*Gives Miserableman a manly backslapping hug*
*Group hug*
English_Bloke wrote:
> Miserableman wrote:
> I'm sorry to say I have to disagree with English Bloke
>
> You don't have to be sorry, as I said; my advice may be useless
> because each situation usually needs to be handled differently.
I'm still sorry! I love you man!!
Forum bonding is ace
> Miserableman wrote:
> I'm sorry to say I have to disagree with English Bloke
>
> You don't have to be sorry, as I said; my advice may be useless
> because each situation usually needs to be handled differently.
I'm still sorry! I love you man!!
Forum bonding is ace
Miserableman wrote:
> I'm sorry to say I have to disagree with English Bloke
You don't have to be sorry, as I said; my advice may be useless because each situation usually needs to be handled differently.
> I'm sorry to say I have to disagree with English Bloke
You don't have to be sorry, as I said; my advice may be useless because each situation usually needs to be handled differently.
Sounds like you are getting shat on at home. Your brother sounds like a pig and your parents should have come down on him like a ton of bricks for what he's done. It really sucks that they haven't. Admittedly, we only have what you've told us to go on, I'm sure there's more to the story than what you've written here. Perhaps it's even worse than you've made out.
I'm sorry to say I have to disagree with English Bloke and say don't try and talk to your brother. When I lived under the same roof as my sister there was barely a civil word between us. When you move out, however, your relationship immediately becomes one of almost friendship (having said that, it was her birthday today and I haven't phoned :O/). Same between me and my Mum. In 10 years time you may well be cracking the buds with your brother, but for now, just stay clear of him. Is he going to University? If he is, then I guess you're entitled to his room.
I'm guessing money is tight with your Mum and Dad, which is the reason you're squeezed into a three bedroom place. It might help if you talked to your Dad a bit more, tell him you're sorry for freaking out occasionally. Considering you don't even have a fooking bedroom of your own, it's really your right to have the internet on after you go to bed, although you may want to postpone asking for this until after your coursework/GCSEs, as it'll be a bloody distraction. Maybe your Mum/Dad could move their PC out of their bedroom, or maybe you could get your own modem so you can dialup yourself. It depends on the circumstances.
Don't worry about your studies. I'm not saying let them go, but don't let them get on top of you. If you're going on to college, the only thing that matters is that your GCSEs get you your foot in the door - once you have A-levels, GCSEs mean sweet-fa. If you're not going to college then I'd still advise you to chill, as you seem like quite a stressed young man. Don't let the ****ers get you down. Different people have different remedies for "I'm going to smash everything in this house" levels of stress - some channel the energy into weightlifting, personally I just try to smile, as it releases hormones that cheer you up. You feel like a pratt walking around with this fixed grin on your face though.
Regarding your friends, well - High Schools are filled with all levels of British society - that is to say, you'll find incalculable levels of ignorant scum. I enjoyed my years at High School, but looking back on it now I realise that it was one of the roughest, cruelest places I've ever had to spend a significant amount of time. As soon as I went to college, those 'unwashed' elements simply melted away, as they were too stupid to get through the door. I remember someone saying to me, just before or just after I started at college "at High School the stupid take the **** out of the clever. At college the clever take the **** out of the stupid". In actual fact, even that was not true - the general atmosphere at college was so much better, there was no mickey-taking at all.
The point is, as you get older your clique of friends becomes naturally trimmed so that the true friends stay and those you don't like drift off. If there are circles of people that just treat you as joke-fodder then cut them loose, there are tonnes of people I just said 'adios' to when I left school and have never seen them again.
Like I said,
Don't let the ****ers get you down!
And don't forget to smile!
I'm sorry to say I have to disagree with English Bloke and say don't try and talk to your brother. When I lived under the same roof as my sister there was barely a civil word between us. When you move out, however, your relationship immediately becomes one of almost friendship (having said that, it was her birthday today and I haven't phoned :O/). Same between me and my Mum. In 10 years time you may well be cracking the buds with your brother, but for now, just stay clear of him. Is he going to University? If he is, then I guess you're entitled to his room.
I'm guessing money is tight with your Mum and Dad, which is the reason you're squeezed into a three bedroom place. It might help if you talked to your Dad a bit more, tell him you're sorry for freaking out occasionally. Considering you don't even have a fooking bedroom of your own, it's really your right to have the internet on after you go to bed, although you may want to postpone asking for this until after your coursework/GCSEs, as it'll be a bloody distraction. Maybe your Mum/Dad could move their PC out of their bedroom, or maybe you could get your own modem so you can dialup yourself. It depends on the circumstances.
Don't worry about your studies. I'm not saying let them go, but don't let them get on top of you. If you're going on to college, the only thing that matters is that your GCSEs get you your foot in the door - once you have A-levels, GCSEs mean sweet-fa. If you're not going to college then I'd still advise you to chill, as you seem like quite a stressed young man. Don't let the ****ers get you down. Different people have different remedies for "I'm going to smash everything in this house" levels of stress - some channel the energy into weightlifting, personally I just try to smile, as it releases hormones that cheer you up. You feel like a pratt walking around with this fixed grin on your face though.
Regarding your friends, well - High Schools are filled with all levels of British society - that is to say, you'll find incalculable levels of ignorant scum. I enjoyed my years at High School, but looking back on it now I realise that it was one of the roughest, cruelest places I've ever had to spend a significant amount of time. As soon as I went to college, those 'unwashed' elements simply melted away, as they were too stupid to get through the door. I remember someone saying to me, just before or just after I started at college "at High School the stupid take the **** out of the clever. At college the clever take the **** out of the stupid". In actual fact, even that was not true - the general atmosphere at college was so much better, there was no mickey-taking at all.
The point is, as you get older your clique of friends becomes naturally trimmed so that the true friends stay and those you don't like drift off. If there are circles of people that just treat you as joke-fodder then cut them loose, there are tonnes of people I just said 'adios' to when I left school and have never seen them again.
Like I said,
Don't let the ****ers get you down!
And don't forget to smile!
Well that all sounds like a bit of a pickle.
First of, my advice may be misplaced as I don’t know what happened between you and your brother, that resulted in you being “kicked out” of the bedroom.
You said the your dad is “ok”, and in fact he even approaches you and tries to interact with you. So how do you think he would react if you approached him, and told him just how you feel? Trying the same with your brother may help, it’s the old cliché that talking really does help.
Parr wrote:
>Some of my friends decide it is fun to always use me as their comic relief and it is really depressing how i am always pushed around and looked down upon and generally ridiculed.
Now, is this just the general light banter and gentle ribbing that goes on between most friends? Do you all in the group take the mick out of each other, or are you singled out? If it’s the former but you feel you get slightly more then the others do, once again, talk to them, let them know that you can take a joke but sometimes they take it to far. If they ignore what you say, or if you are in fact the only one that gets roasted then these people are not your friends.
Parr wrote:
>School is hard at the moment. I have about 4 courseworks which are now late and i am constantly being told i am under achieving. GCSE's are starting in just a matter of weeks and i still have not started to revise.
I have seen some of your posts about, but I would hardly say that I know you at all. But you seem like a fairly intelligent chap (correct me if I am wrong), and I wouldn’t be surprised if some of the other things in your life sorted themselves out, then you would have more motivation and school work may seem less of a chore. One thing that may be affecting you falling behind could be the lack of privacy that you mentioned. You could talk to your parents and see if they can sort out a quite place in the house where you could do your work.
To me though, it sounds like you are depressed, and as the other people have said the best course of action is to seek professional help.
I have a little experience in this area, my sister suffered quite badly from depression; she was about your age at the time. She told my parents she had been feeling down and after a doctor referred her to a specialist, we all went with her, sat in a room with the “shrink” and just listened to her talk. What terrified me was that none of us knew just how she had been feeling, that she had been bottling this up for so long, and she just felt worse and worse. After she told people how she was feeling, those people could then try to help her.
I don’t think I have ever been *depressed* myself, I have been unhappy and unsure about things, usually when coming up to something that will effect my future, such as exams or more recently on career decisions, I found this affected my confidence more then anything else. But one thing I found that really helped me was just getting a job in an area of my personal interest. I worked part-time in a computer store in town, and I was amazed at how much better I started to feel. I was working with people that I shared interests with and thereby made a new group of friends. I gained a lot of confidence because I was talking to lots of new people all the time and as I said, I just felt better.
Well I have rambled on for long enough now. So I will just say, I hope you feel better soon mate :)
First of, my advice may be misplaced as I don’t know what happened between you and your brother, that resulted in you being “kicked out” of the bedroom.
You said the your dad is “ok”, and in fact he even approaches you and tries to interact with you. So how do you think he would react if you approached him, and told him just how you feel? Trying the same with your brother may help, it’s the old cliché that talking really does help.
Parr wrote:
>Some of my friends decide it is fun to always use me as their comic relief and it is really depressing how i am always pushed around and looked down upon and generally ridiculed.
Now, is this just the general light banter and gentle ribbing that goes on between most friends? Do you all in the group take the mick out of each other, or are you singled out? If it’s the former but you feel you get slightly more then the others do, once again, talk to them, let them know that you can take a joke but sometimes they take it to far. If they ignore what you say, or if you are in fact the only one that gets roasted then these people are not your friends.
Parr wrote:
>School is hard at the moment. I have about 4 courseworks which are now late and i am constantly being told i am under achieving. GCSE's are starting in just a matter of weeks and i still have not started to revise.
I have seen some of your posts about, but I would hardly say that I know you at all. But you seem like a fairly intelligent chap (correct me if I am wrong), and I wouldn’t be surprised if some of the other things in your life sorted themselves out, then you would have more motivation and school work may seem less of a chore. One thing that may be affecting you falling behind could be the lack of privacy that you mentioned. You could talk to your parents and see if they can sort out a quite place in the house where you could do your work.
To me though, it sounds like you are depressed, and as the other people have said the best course of action is to seek professional help.
I have a little experience in this area, my sister suffered quite badly from depression; she was about your age at the time. She told my parents she had been feeling down and after a doctor referred her to a specialist, we all went with her, sat in a room with the “shrink” and just listened to her talk. What terrified me was that none of us knew just how she had been feeling, that she had been bottling this up for so long, and she just felt worse and worse. After she told people how she was feeling, those people could then try to help her.
I don’t think I have ever been *depressed* myself, I have been unhappy and unsure about things, usually when coming up to something that will effect my future, such as exams or more recently on career decisions, I found this affected my confidence more then anything else. But one thing I found that really helped me was just getting a job in an area of my personal interest. I worked part-time in a computer store in town, and I was amazed at how much better I started to feel. I was working with people that I shared interests with and thereby made a new group of friends. I gained a lot of confidence because I was talking to lots of new people all the time and as I said, I just felt better.
Well I have rambled on for long enough now. So I will just say, I hope you feel better soon mate :)
My parents are turning off their computer for the night and therefore the internet. So i will be gone for the evening. Thanks for all your help and I will talk abit more tomorow.
SHEEPY wrote:
> As I said I admire your outlook
>
> If you don't mind me asking... how did all this arise?
>
> How old is your brother?
18 in June
>Why'd he throw you out?
I used to be trying to goto bed and he would have the light, tv and pc on. Therefore there was no possible way to sleep. I would go downstairs to where it was dark and peaceful then i would be able to sleep. Slowly as i stayed downstairs more and more often I would try and go back into the room but he would get violent and phisically push me out.
So i just got up and left the room one night for good. My parents wouldn't help me so i just let it be.
>Why didn't your parents sort it out?
I still don't know myself
> And please tell me your sisters dont have a room each
No they share a room also.
> As I said I admire your outlook
>
> If you don't mind me asking... how did all this arise?
>
> How old is your brother?
18 in June
>Why'd he throw you out?
I used to be trying to goto bed and he would have the light, tv and pc on. Therefore there was no possible way to sleep. I would go downstairs to where it was dark and peaceful then i would be able to sleep. Slowly as i stayed downstairs more and more often I would try and go back into the room but he would get violent and phisically push me out.
So i just got up and left the room one night for good. My parents wouldn't help me so i just let it be.
>Why didn't your parents sort it out?
I still don't know myself
> And please tell me your sisters dont have a room each
No they share a room also.
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