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Post edited by Hmmm... on 29/12/2018 at 18:19.
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Post edited by Hmmm... on 29/12/2018 at 18:19.
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Finished downloading.
Onto Zen then off to bed.
Onto Zen then off to bed.
Didn't feel like child was being used too much.
T'is great stuff. Aside from Understanding Children, was there also Understanding Society? I'm sure that was one of the beginner's courses.
T'is great stuff. Aside from Understanding Children, was there also Understanding Society? I'm sure that was one of the beginner's courses.
I was going to say infant, but argh, it's not used much in the book so I'm afraid to.
Infant is ok to use
I use the word 'child' a lot. Damn word.
Ms NY wrote:
> Ok. Silly thing to say but I still mean it.
Yeah i know you do, sorry for the attitude.
> Hehe, whenever you mention cleaning, the image of There's Something
> About Mary and the rushed lady hoovering the sofa comes to mind. :-D
Never seen it
> Um.. not much no. I'll talk to her tomorrow.
Oke doke, good
> Ok. Silly thing to say but I still mean it.
Yeah i know you do, sorry for the attitude.
> Hehe, whenever you mention cleaning, the image of There's Something
> About Mary and the rushed lady hoovering the sofa comes to mind. :-D
Never seen it
> Um.. not much no. I'll talk to her tomorrow.
Oke doke, good
Rai and Flynn (2004) suggest that in order for children to develop secure attachments, and therefore allow consistency and stability in their childhood, they should be able to ‘connect’ to their carers in their family. Rai and Flynn (2004, p. 49) also states ‘The very minimum that a baby needs in order to form a secure relationship is to have a person reliably and consistently there to meet their needs.’
It is also recommended that children may even benefit from multiple carers during childhood. Rai and Flynn (2004) propose that having various carers may help the child to develop social skills and understanding and can receive pleasure from a multitude of relationships. Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 38) quote a mother when referring to the planning of sharing the care with a childminder so both parents can ‘have time for work and study’. In this case it is shown that carers do not have to even be part of the family, and that by spreading the care amongst multiple carers, it can allow parents to make time for more pursuits of their interest. It is also discussed by Rai and Flynn (2004) and heavily mentioned that while it is important for children to develop secure attachments, they do not always have to be within the close family, but that simply the attachment is the most important thing. In this example, a close relationship will form between the child and the childminder. This doesn’t make less of the attachments to the infant’s parents, as was believed and encouraged during the 1950’s, but simply expands upon them.
If a child does indeed have multiple carers, it may be good practise to make sure that strong communication exists between all carers involved in the upbringing of the child. Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 51) state ‘Ideally, the adults involved [with the upbringing of the infant] need to talk frequently with each other about the care they provide, to check they are all working together in what’s best for a child.’ In raising an infant, if one carer is behaving with a child in one way, and another carer is behaving differently, then it will prove much difficulty in the child’s raising, and may find trouble finding stability in its relationships. Another point made by Rai and Flynn (2004 p.52) is that ‘All her carers seem to make a point of telling her what she is doing on that day – keeping her informed all the way through, which can be a great help to her being able to feel in control of her life’. It suggests that by communicating amongst carers, and to the child, that it can allow even more stability in the child’s surroundings, and gives, as stated by Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 52) ‘control of her social world’. This communication can come from language, or objects associated with tasks. By giving these clues to what is coming, the child can stay alert and safe in the stability and predictability of the infant’s day to day life.
When families develop secure attachments with children, it can also be that this can then help the infant to build up strengths to be used in adulthood. Reacting to a child’s behaviour and their attempts for communication helps the relationship to keep ‘in tune’. This can be known as ‘attentive behaviour’, and the opposite of this, where the child is neglected in communication, can be known as ‘inattentive behaviour’. Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 49) states ‘This inattentive or neglecting behaviour, even where the physical care of a baby is good, can be damaging for babies and young children as they are not able to really ‘connect’ with another human being.’ This could lead to social problems later in life, and can make life as an adult very difficult. However, it is worth noting that Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 53) make it clear to point out that ‘Although close, predictable relationships are very important in helping children grow up into secure and confident young people, broken or lost attachments do not necessarily result in permanent harm.’ This suggests that even without a family or close, strong relationships during childhood; it does not mean they are lastingly damaged in their later life.
References
Rai, L. and Flynn, R. (2004) Understanding Children, Milton Keynes, The Open University
Yeah, it's all referenced from one book, it's the point of the course to learn how to write essays. This is the first one I've done in years, I hate doing it and I've just taken on another course which has ten of them to do, all much bigger, argh.
It is also recommended that children may even benefit from multiple carers during childhood. Rai and Flynn (2004) propose that having various carers may help the child to develop social skills and understanding and can receive pleasure from a multitude of relationships. Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 38) quote a mother when referring to the planning of sharing the care with a childminder so both parents can ‘have time for work and study’. In this case it is shown that carers do not have to even be part of the family, and that by spreading the care amongst multiple carers, it can allow parents to make time for more pursuits of their interest. It is also discussed by Rai and Flynn (2004) and heavily mentioned that while it is important for children to develop secure attachments, they do not always have to be within the close family, but that simply the attachment is the most important thing. In this example, a close relationship will form between the child and the childminder. This doesn’t make less of the attachments to the infant’s parents, as was believed and encouraged during the 1950’s, but simply expands upon them.
If a child does indeed have multiple carers, it may be good practise to make sure that strong communication exists between all carers involved in the upbringing of the child. Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 51) state ‘Ideally, the adults involved [with the upbringing of the infant] need to talk frequently with each other about the care they provide, to check they are all working together in what’s best for a child.’ In raising an infant, if one carer is behaving with a child in one way, and another carer is behaving differently, then it will prove much difficulty in the child’s raising, and may find trouble finding stability in its relationships. Another point made by Rai and Flynn (2004 p.52) is that ‘All her carers seem to make a point of telling her what she is doing on that day – keeping her informed all the way through, which can be a great help to her being able to feel in control of her life’. It suggests that by communicating amongst carers, and to the child, that it can allow even more stability in the child’s surroundings, and gives, as stated by Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 52) ‘control of her social world’. This communication can come from language, or objects associated with tasks. By giving these clues to what is coming, the child can stay alert and safe in the stability and predictability of the infant’s day to day life.
When families develop secure attachments with children, it can also be that this can then help the infant to build up strengths to be used in adulthood. Reacting to a child’s behaviour and their attempts for communication helps the relationship to keep ‘in tune’. This can be known as ‘attentive behaviour’, and the opposite of this, where the child is neglected in communication, can be known as ‘inattentive behaviour’. Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 49) states ‘This inattentive or neglecting behaviour, even where the physical care of a baby is good, can be damaging for babies and young children as they are not able to really ‘connect’ with another human being.’ This could lead to social problems later in life, and can make life as an adult very difficult. However, it is worth noting that Rai and Flynn (2004 p. 53) make it clear to point out that ‘Although close, predictable relationships are very important in helping children grow up into secure and confident young people, broken or lost attachments do not necessarily result in permanent harm.’ This suggests that even without a family or close, strong relationships during childhood; it does not mean they are lastingly damaged in their later life.
References
Rai, L. and Flynn, R. (2004) Understanding Children, Milton Keynes, The Open University
Yeah, it's all referenced from one book, it's the point of the course to learn how to write essays. This is the first one I've done in years, I hate doing it and I've just taken on another course which has ten of them to do, all much bigger, argh.
Yep down, but I'm not logged in tonight. Some weird firewall problem I can't work out, meh.
Nin wrote:
> It's not like i have a choice
Ok. Silly thing to say but I still mean it.
> I was in bed, was asleep for about 50 minutes and woke up feeling
> like this. Not fun. I guess i could tidy up but thats probably not a
> good idea. Sleep will be the best option when i'm able to.
Hehe, whenever you mention cleaning, the image of There's Something About Mary and the rushed lady hoovering the sofa comes to mind. :-D
> Have you thought about that method of talking to your mum i
> mentioned?
Um.. not much no. I'll talk to her tomorrow.
Oh.. but thankyou muchly for the suggestions. It is appreciated. :)
Nin wrote:
> It's not like i have a choice
Ok. Silly thing to say but I still mean it.
> I was in bed, was asleep for about 50 minutes and woke up feeling
> like this. Not fun. I guess i could tidy up but thats probably not a
> good idea. Sleep will be the best option when i'm able to.
Hehe, whenever you mention cleaning, the image of There's Something About Mary and the rushed lady hoovering the sofa comes to mind. :-D
> Have you thought about that method of talking to your mum i
> mentioned?
Um.. not much no. I'll talk to her tomorrow.
Oh.. but thankyou muchly for the suggestions. It is appreciated. :)
down wrote:
> Quick query:
>
> I thought you two had MSN? And had each other on their lists?
You are correct, it's usual for us to have two conversations running.
Go ahead Grix
> Quick query:
>
> I thought you two had MSN? And had each other on their lists?
You are correct, it's usual for us to have two conversations running.
Go ahead Grix
down wrote:
"I thought you two had MSN? And had each other on their lists?"
Other people talk here too!
Sometimes.
Well ok, it's the Nin and Ms NY Show but it's nice to come along and jump into the conversation when you want to.
"I thought you two had MSN? And had each other on their lists?"
Other people talk here too!
Sometimes.
Well ok, it's the Nin and Ms NY Show but it's nice to come along and jump into the conversation when you want to.
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