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"WWIII in hippyman's household"

Ever feel like you're between a rock and a hard place?

Well as some of you know I'm unemployed and desperately looking for a job (spending hours a day trawling through job sites etc, applying for 6-7 a week). My stepbrother has been unemployed longer than me and is applying for about one a month. He has no motivation and is just a lazy so-and-so. My stepdad just lost his job on medical grounds and is looking to find employment as soon as possible. My mum is providing for the family.

I do feel bad about this and am looking for anything. My stepbrother, who moved in with us a year ago on Friday, couldn't care a less and is just a miserable blight that is bringing everyone down. He hasn't worked and has a poor set of GCSEs because he didn't think it was a good idea to study. I have four A2's in the three sciences in maths and all passes in my GCSEs.

Yet when it comes to looking down and seeing none of us are employed, my stepdad gives us both a lecture (and tells me afterwards it's not aimed at me) about not putting the effort in, being lazy and not doing anything. Kind of a downer on me don't you think - feeling the wrath when working hard to avoid it and do domething of the situation.

Anyway, today tipped me over the edge a little and hence he title of the thread. My stepdad told me today to apply for a 4-hour a week job at the local camera shop (about £5.50 an hour or £22 a week or a £1144 salary if you like). I said I need something a bit more full time and he progressed to say beggars can't be choosers. True. However, he was the one that wanted me to leave my 20 hour a week job at GAME because it wasn't full time :S And when my mum came home she was upset because I'd applied for a porter's job at a nearby hospital that paid about £12.5k a year, saying I'm over qualified and should try and find something better.

I recounted both parents' stories in front of them and basically a huge argument broke out. My stepdad doesn't want me to go for the porter job as he'd rather see me in a camera shop for a few hours a week. My mum doesn't want me to go for it because I'm over qualified. If I don't apply for it I'mm being lazy and not working hard. But if I'm overqualified for a full-time position delivering things around hospitals, then why am I not over qualified to do a schoolchilds saturday job? Hmmm...

Yet I get this lecture whilst my stepbrother is upstairs freeloading away with no job, no motivation and spending what must be hs 8th hour today on his 360. I'm paying into the household with my savings, yet he's not.

Sadly this is life in the household and I've threatened to move in with a relative very soon. I must sound like a real jerk, but at the moment I need to escape. Any advice?

Cong Man wrote:
> Something has now come up. A local company want to interview me
> and think I'm a very strong match for what they're looking for,
> to fill a position which is circa £10k more per year than
> what I'm currently earning.

How much is job satisfaction worth to you? More than 10k a year?

I think you always have to do what's best for you - I left a company as they tricked me into cold-calling (which was awful). had to leave otherwise I'd end up depressed -but I did leave and it has gotten to the stage of no work or money and agan - depression sets in.

But feeling good about myself today - 4 jobs applied for in 2 days, so hopefully some luck. Two good ones today as well - sales executive for a new jewellers in Cribbs Causeway and a sales executive for a car dealer in my adjacent town of Chipping Sodbury.

On the subject of jobs, I may have a very difficult decision to take soon.

Some of you may recall I posted some months ago about my frustration at not being able to move up the ladder in my then current job and how I felt I'd be passed over for other people just because they moaned the loudest. You may remember that I did, eventually, get my promotion by making sure I was moaning the loudest when we restructured. Well, this seems to have fostered a little resentment amongst those I left behind, however, in the main I do enjoy my current job and I enjoy working here.

Now, when I was unhappy, I was putting my CV out to loads of companies, I was registered with various agencies and I applied for loads of job, but didn't get a single interview. When I got promoted, I left my CV out there, just to see if anything came up in future.

Something has now come up. A local company want to interview me and think I'm a very strong match for what they're looking for, to fill a position which is circa £10k more per year than what I'm currently earning.

However, as I already mentioned, I am happy where I am. So, the decision, if I should be offered the job, do I jump ship, which always carries the risk of me not being happy with the new company. Or do I stick it where I am, where I know the upsides and downsides of the job and the people inside out.

hippyman wrote:
> So what's wrong with framing pictures for peanuts? :p

Boredom, the pay and the people I would have been working with seemed... well, not the sort of people who'd be too happy to work with!

I'm quite happy to be a bin man at the moment. But I'm keeping myself occupied by searching and at least it makes you feel as though you're doing something.

I'm actually keeping a hard record in a folder of all jobs applied for in case it comes to the stage I have to sign on (which I absolutely do not want to do) and at least wehn people complain I can show them what I've done :)

So what's wrong with framing pictures for peanuts? :p

I spent ages trying to get part-time work at uni and finally secured something last month having spent months trying to get anything. God knows how many things I applied for, but there's so much to consider; hours, pay, whether it'd be a good place to work in, etc.

I had to turn down two jobs due to the hours (both ridiculous) and another I gave up about halfway through an interview as I didn't want to be doing something so dull as framing pictures for minimum wage!

Different situation, yes, but still there's more than applications!

Double post - sorry.

Opera is running really weirdly at the moment :S

Thanks for your input guys. The aftermath isn't so bad, but I think afterwards I had to get out of the house and chat about with friends. A few pints later and everything had blown over.

Sorry to hear about that El Viking. I'm sure the situation will improve.

And I know what you mean Machie, the south west is filled to the brim with the Polish (as in people from Poland, not the stuff to shine things up :p). As I am still good fiends witha dental practice owner, he told me that although jobs are available around the area, the first pickings go to EU nationals instead of the British as they can pay them less - as they pay no income tax. I don't know how much of that is truth, but the way our governmen is at the moment, I wouldn't be too surprised.

But lots of applications mean the numbers game, I'm bound to get one of them right? :)

Hmmm, it depends on what your relationship between your parents and you is like. If it's good and they are willing to listen, tell exactly what's on your mind as politely as possible. Stay calm and try to avoid arguments. If an argument erupts, politely take your leave and resume when it has calmed down.

If they are reasonable people, they might take the pressure off as they know what you are doing. It's the way I see the situation anyway.

damn. Grim times.

Well, i can recommend this place:

Justit.co.uk