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"From friendship to more"

Can going from being good friends to more than just friends work? Is it worth damaging a perfectly good friendship to ask the question? Or is it best just to stick to being friends?

I honestly don't know. My last relationship developed from a friendship, but I don't know if that happened because we had only just started to hang out with each other and I didn't know everything about her and she didn't know everything about me. There seems to be that barrier to going further than friends once you know more about each other and it prevents you from becoming 'more than just a good friend'. I've had that experience too, of asking someone out who I had been friends with for a while and she said no because it might ruin our friendship. She did however say that she did once feel more towards me than just being a friend, so again this backs up the theory of there's a certain period of time you have to act.

I don't know if it's possible to work both ways, can you go from best mates to more, regardless of how long you've known each other? Or should a good friendship never be put at risk? What are your experiences?

Everpain wrote:
> She says: I know you too well to go out with you.
> She means: You lack emotional depth, and are akin to a court
> jester - we keep you around for laughs, so don't get ideas above
> your station.

So that's why I'm always being encouraged to get very drunk... X^D

I dont know...I think it can work if you were friends to begin with. In fact, I think it gives you a slightly stronger base. I may be wrong. Its just my bf and I used to be preety good friends and I started to have feelings for him, cos he's such an amazing guy. He's kind and caring and loving. He was a great friend and I guess he had the qualities I looked for in a good boyfriend. We've been together almost a year now. I have no regrets whatsoever. He's amazing.

I think its more how compatible you are with the person.

Although if she had feelings for you once, she might realise that you're still that guy and those feelings may develop again. Give it time I guess?! You shouldn't push it on the other person.

The question is do you love them?! You have to think long and hard about this.

If you have really strong feelings for this person, then you should tell them what your heart says and go for it.

I don't know if its worth the risk, but sometimes I think its better to be straight with them.

I'm dealing with this dillema myself - I like one of my best mates, but we became good friends when she rejected first of all. It wasn't a no, but a "still haven't gotten over my ex, so give me a little time".

I dunno if its now gone past the stage where all we'll be is friends. I may just wait to see what uni brings (although she will be in the uni nearby :S)

I suppose it depends on the case whether or not to proceed