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"From friendship to more"

Can going from being good friends to more than just friends work? Is it worth damaging a perfectly good friendship to ask the question? Or is it best just to stick to being friends?

I honestly don't know. My last relationship developed from a friendship, but I don't know if that happened because we had only just started to hang out with each other and I didn't know everything about her and she didn't know everything about me. There seems to be that barrier to going further than friends once you know more about each other and it prevents you from becoming 'more than just a good friend'. I've had that experience too, of asking someone out who I had been friends with for a while and she said no because it might ruin our friendship. She did however say that she did once feel more towards me than just being a friend, so again this backs up the theory of there's a certain period of time you have to act.

I don't know if it's possible to work both ways, can you go from best mates to more, regardless of how long you've known each other? Or should a good friendship never be put at risk? What are your experiences?

Can going from being good friends to more than just friends work? Is it worth damaging a perfectly good friendship to ask the question? Or is it best just to stick to being friends?

I honestly don't know. My last relationship developed from a friendship, but I don't know if that happened because we had only just started to hang out with each other and I didn't know everything about her and she didn't know everything about me. There seems to be that barrier to going further than friends once you know more about each other and it prevents you from becoming 'more than just a good friend'. I've had that experience too, of asking someone out who I had been friends with for a while and she said no because it might ruin our friendship. She did however say that she did once feel more towards me than just being a friend, so again this backs up the theory of there's a certain period of time you have to act.

I don't know if it's possible to work both ways, can you go from best mates to more, regardless of how long you've known each other? Or should a good friendship never be put at risk? What are your experiences?

I've thought about this a few times myself, actually. I remember a (slightly drunken) conversation when a couple of female friends said that they knew me too well to go out with me, which was frankly quite an odd thing to hear. Can't remember how it came up, really.

I've known of this sort of thing to work for some people, and not for others. Just depends, I guess; problem is, you may be jeopardising a friendship trying to take it up a level (or two!)

I've been through this problem 3 times and generally it doesnt work out, but i still go by the idea that if your friendship cant survive a breakup, then it really wasnt worth hanging onto in the first place.
The flipside of that though is you only really need it to work out once. Personally i think it's worth a gamble for that reason.

Didn't work out for me, but then at least we stayed friends afterwards.

I find it hard having girls just as friends, as many of the qualities I look for in friends are the same qualities I look for in girlfriends.

Alfonse wrote:
> I find it hard having girls

Says it all...

I think my wife who is in fact Penelope Cruz would disagree with you there. Crazy guy.

Why would you want to be more than just friends? I say that once you breach that threshold into the lover zone you're committed to a greater degree. Then, there are expectations..

Balls.

She says: It would ruin our friendship.
She means: My mates say you're a lousy kisser, besides, I wouldn't be seen dead dressed up in your car.

She says: I know you too well to go out with you.
She means: You lack emotional depth, and are akin to a court jester - we keep you around for laughs, so don't get ideas above your station.

She says: Could we ever go back to being just friends
She means: I'd screw you up so badly that you'd want to snap my neck, yet for appearances sake we'd have to hang out together because your friends are my friends etc.

She says: It's not the right time for me.
She means: I'm sleeping with your best mate(s), and we don't want you to know this just yet because we both know you can't handle it.

In my experiance No!

Mainly because people i meet seem to be total jerks. If they are not in a relationship with you they would rather be your worst enemy. Which is fine by me, proves what a possible Tw@t they would have been anyway.


At the minute i have made such a good friend. We get on great together and we have a laugh. Ive been told he wants more, and i dont because im done with relationships just cant be arsed with them. After being in a 7 year relationship my life now is my own. Thats the way i like it.


Ive been good friends, my ex. We were great friends at school and got on well. I wouldnt be in a relationship with him. Then when i left school 2 years i hadnt seen him and he decided to ring me, we started hanging out again and then got in a relationship. Together 7 years and had 2 kids before it all went down hill. Ok we talk because of the kids. However the friendship that we had has completly gone. Im sad about that but what can you do? Sometimes i wish i never risked getting with him. I knew it would end like this if we were to split.

Now i just tend to cling with friendships rather then relationships.

I would rather have friends in my life.

I cant say i speak to any of my ex's anymore