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"Where did you meet and why is it important?"

The title refers to your other half/better half/lover/husband/wife/biatch, delete as applicable.

I was thinking about this while in the bath this morning. Does it matter where you meet? Does it have any effect on you or others around you? Do you judge others on how and where they met?

What are your thoughts on people that have met say, in a pub? Or in a club? What about a blind date? Personal ads or the one I'm really getting at, through the Internet? I obviously have had a little personal experience regarding the last of these and have found it to be very strange in some ways. It's strange, because it hasn't been strange, if that makes any sense whatsoever.

It hasn't seemed strange to me regarding my lass, but yet I've still not been comfortable to tell everyone where we met. Why could this be?
I've told some people and it hasn't been a big thing to them and yet I think it would be to others. My parents for instance.

It just strikes me as odd.
We met online, (this very forum), talked for a year and a half on MSN and the phone and then met up. We just got on really well, as cheesy as it sounds, we just "clicked". We've been a couple for over 4 months and now and now she's just my lass. No longer is she a name on a forum, my contacts list and mobile. She's ma' woman, innit.

The way I see it is that is doesn't matter really how we or anyone else meets, it's how you get on and relate to each other and those around you that matters.
I've taken some stick for meeting her online, (even worse then that it has made me talk like a third division football manager now and then).

It has been called "sad" that we met online and are now dating. Why is it sad? I didn't come on this website looking for totty. I mean, the fact that the sexy beast that is Light comes on here keeps me coming back, but that isn't why I joined. If I'd joined a gym or something because I wanted to go to it and then I met someone there, would that not be the same thing? Is it simply because when we first met, we didn't really meet because we were an hour away from each other that causes people to look down their nose?

What if I'd signed up to a dating website, would that then actually be sad because I was looking for people online and the perception may be that I can't "get" a girl in "real" life?

I'm just wondering what all your thoughts are on this and if any of you have had any personal experience of any of it.

Now go, my pretties, and go on Light, you gorgeous creature.

Lawrence wrote:
> Since I met my boyfriend online, and we couldn't be with each other
> physically, it meant we had to talk more. We are a lot closer than
> i've been with any other boyfriend. Also, I liked to start arguments
> with my other boyfriends, cos thats how I was, but me and David's
> hardly ever row.

Awww, bless you.

> And it's true that we could have been anyone. Though I did find some
> stuff out about him once we started going out, which he told me a
> different story to ;o)

Shush...
She's talking about my warty penis

Since I met my boyfriend online, and we couldn't be with each other physically, it meant we had to talk more. We are a lot closer than i've been with any other boyfriend. Also, I liked to start arguments with my other boyfriends, cos thats how I was, but me and David's hardly ever row.

And it's true that we could have been anyone. Though I did find some stuff out about him once we started going out, which he told me a different story to ;o)

A lot of people think having a relationship via the internet is a signal that you're too weak to commit in 'real life'. I completely disagree - it's the opposite. To have enough emotional strength to commit to someone you've never met, based purely on what you get through the words you type, and then to travel, sometimes hundreds of miles, if not more, to see someone, not knowing if you're going to click in real life? Shows real courage, if you ask me. I know I don't have that courage. I've tried.

I think the internet is a wonderful way to be false to someone, because it's very hard to tell. But, it's also a wonderful way to be true to someone, let them understand you and well, meet a whole lot more people than you'll meet in your local club.

Is it sad? Who cares? As long as people are happy and true to each other then I think that's marvvvellous. I always look an absolute mess of a person because well, er, that's me. I'm too busy being in tune with having fun and exploring my soul etc than to be bothered with making sure I fit in with society. If people think I'm sad then I do kinda pity them, I'm afraid. I'm actually rather happy.

i met mine on the 20th December 2003 for the first time.
However only started talking to him on the internet a couple of weeks before.
Now moved in together and married.

Its important as it goes to show internet relationships can work..Plus i met the person im meant to be with :)

Awww this topic makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside :)

Sweet.

4 months, 1 week, 5 days, 16 hours, 28 minutes at 6:28pm

:o)

Lawrence wrote:
> Tonight will be 4 months, 1 week and 6 days.

:-D Hours and minutes?

I did know, but I rounded.

Post it, babe. Don't worry about it being interesting. As long as it's not insulting my pecker, I'd quite like to read it.

Trust the girl to know exactly. Though EB, you should know considering the msn thing

grrr...