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Is it that important to tell your friends, and family of course, that you're ill?
I've been diagnosed with schizophrenia, but how do you go about telling a friend that? It doesn't exactly spring up in conversation.. I guess they deserve to know, but I think paranoia reminds me that it's not really worth it, it doesn't change who I am or what I do, but it may affect the way they see you.
With stuff like this before, I've tried to gather all my friends in one place and telling everyone at once.. I've tried telling nobody, which wasn't the greatest road to go down.. and also just a select few, which is easier but still makes me wonder about the rest.
Horrible horrible thing to munder over. I know the best thing is 'if it bothers you then say' etc.. I'm just interested in what you'd do.
Would something like that get to you? Would you feel pressured to say? Or would you just carry on, not really caring of it?
I have a few close, personal friends that I can discuss this with.. but the problem is, I'm making one or two new friends.. do they deserve to know? I don't know, it confuses and scares me. I'm more than likely worrying over nothing here mind.
So what would you do?
I'd be more afraid of getting cancer or an STD.
If they're never going to suspect anything, why worry them?
I'd tell my family easily enough, tell a few close friends who i know would treat me the same. Then play it by ear with new people.
If I was your friend I'd probably be glad you had the confidence to tell me and stuff.
So as much as I advise you tell those who care about you, I can understand you not doing so.
Anyway, my advice for anyone in the same situation would be to tell people the truth, especially people important to you, and explain exactly what you experiance, and what your going through.
Having a mental illness isn't such a pariah these days, though of course some people will never understand and somehow assume that it's the "sufferer's" fault for "being that way".
If you look at the situation from another perspective, how would you react if someone you knew told you that they had a mental illness? Or if they didn't tell you and found out from someone else?
I'd rather know why my friend was acting the way thay they were, than simply presuming something and defining them by a misconception. I.e. my mate's a great guy but sometimes he's an odd fooker.
And besides, as long as you're 'interesting-weird' rather than 'scary-weird' you have nothing to worry about by teling people anyway. If they haven't worked it out already by knowing you, chances are they're not going to have a huge reaction.