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"Dont realise what you got till it's gone"

I came home from school today and my next door neighbour came round and told us that Dennis the guy who lives about 4 doors down from me was taken to hospital Sunday night by my neighbour because he was having sharp pains going down his side.
But on the way to the hospital Dennis sadly died in the car.

I have known him since I have lived here, so about 11-12 years, I speak to him pretty much every morning before and after school, he used to ask me how I was doing ect.
He wasn't a young man, he must have been about 60-65 and he has a dog called Pip, Pip was picked up on Monday morning in a RSPCA van, we just though it was because he didn't want it any more.

I’ve seen him go through so many things, like when his first dog died, then he got a new one and that died last year and now he has this one.
And when his wife passed away about 2 years ago, all these occasions we used to talk about.

When my brother got home from school he used to come out and say "Hi" and ask how he was and what he had been up to in school.

But the thing that hurts the most is that on Friday when I got home from school I saw him outside my house, but it was cold and rainy and I just wanted to get in, so I thought if I make out that I am running I wont have to speak to him, so I ran to my house and went straight in.
The last time ever I saw him I couldn't be bothered to talk to him, if I had know I would have stopped and talked to him like usual.
I’m now kicking myself for that.

Basically don't take people for grantage (sp!?) because they may be there one minuet but gone the next.

You may think what the hell is the point in me posting this; well I just wanted to type what I think.

Ill miss you Dennis :)

GasMask wrote:

> My brother has cancer in the lung, and perhaps a brain tumour.

Jeebus im really sorry to hear that, hope they can operate :)

Sorry to here about the Rob.

My brother has cancer in the lung, and perhaps a brain tumour.

Its scared me sh*tless. In a few weeks they'll tell him if its operatable or not.

Yeah dont worry bout not talking to him. But things like that make you feel really bad I can understand.

Be who you want to be now. Not tomorrow.

Quote from somebody..

"In 30 years time you'll be more dissapointed by things you didn't do than the things you did"

We had a nice old fella living opposite us. He always let on when I was out in front of my house, washing my car or whatever. I often popped over to borrow stuff of his, he was one of the nicest people you could meet. He died about 3 months ago leaving his elderly wife living there alone. people visit her regularly and help out when they can, but I can fully understand that when you get to that age and your spouse dies, you kind of want to pass away yourself. Your life partner has gone, and you are relying on others for help. You must get incredibly lonely.

You can be surrounded by people, live with them, see them day and night, and still be just as lonely as if you were completely alone. You need to be with someone who completely understands you, otherwise you may as well be in a hall of strangers.

Or perhaps that's just crazy talk.

Thanks very much Lil Ginge :)

O Robin I am so sorry.

I know how you feel, a lovely old lady two doors up was all by herself in a cottage/bungalow and she always used to lean and talk to me from her garden through the one in the middle's to me - and we have LARGE gardens. I was so upset when I heard this litle lady had died because recently she had saved magazines on animals and tht for me and was ready to give them. She was so lonely - her sons never saw her and she lived alone.

:(

Its a shame but hopefully your friend is better off now.

Losing someone is weird I lost my grandad this month too which has absolutely destroyed me inside though I dare show it - he was one of my closest friends an absolute dude and gentlemen at heart. Its sad knowing that someone is gone and you never will see them again.

Dont torture yourself about that one time when you could of said hello - in all honesty if you knew what was to cme you would never have done it. I wouldnt of stopped to catch neumonia. In the end you talked to this nice old man who was on his own and that is a lovely and respectful thing to do which i expect most adults or kids didnt! He must of liked you to be so caring to ask how you was so he wouldnt want you to beat yourself up about it.

Hope you feel better soon though Rob, God bless mate

Just been told by the nrighbour that he kind of died in the car, as they arrived he was getting out of the car and just slid out the seat onto the floor and the doctors came out and said that he had died.

What he had done is gone round their house and said that he had chest pains and other sharp pains down his side, when they said that they will call the ambulence he said no, then 5 minuets later he got worse so that why he was in the car. Because he didn't want to go and was making a fuss.
If he didn't make a fuss and just let them call them ambulence then maybe he would still be here today.

When my mum was speaking to the neighbours, for the first time ever they just started crying whilst telling my mum, my neighbours must be in their 60s of 70s as well and the lady has already had a stroke.

They said they will let us know when the funeral is, but is that allright if i go? I mean im not exactly family or his best mate, i just happen to know and speak to the guy.

mattribute wrote:
> That song is awesome.
>
> But for once I actually feel sorry for you.

Thanks mate.
>
> It's strange how people who seem so insignificant in your life can
> make you feel so bad, isn't it?

Yea it is, i never really thought anything about it, just sort of said hi and chatted to him, now that he has gone i realise that them little chats have been going on for 12 years.

ooooh

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