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Now it's personal!
So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your eyes?
And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married? Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just inevitable? What should you leave a marriage for and what could you forgive?
So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your eyes?
And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married? Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just inevitable? What should you leave a marriage for and what could you forgive?
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Meka Dragon wrote:
> I don't get these people that have children and never see them.
I don't understand that either. Im there for my kids all the time and i couldnt just up and leave them. Miss them growing up etc... The first few years are the most important. When there in school etc.. then i dont see the harm in returning to work and supporting them.
> I don't get these people that have children and never see them.
I don't understand that either. Im there for my kids all the time and i couldnt just up and leave them. Miss them growing up etc... The first few years are the most important. When there in school etc.. then i dont see the harm in returning to work and supporting them.
Having kids is great, especially when they're at the 'fetch and carry' stage. I never have to look for the remote again, or fetch my own beer from the fridge. Once they're able to make tea, I will truly be a king amongst men...
Seriously though, the most important thing has to be spending time with children. There have been a couple of adverts on TV lately that have really annoyed me. One for Bisto, in which people promise to spewnd one night a week eating togethre as a family. One night a week? That's rubbish. What are the kids going ot do the rest of the week, grab a meal from out of the microwave and eat it sitting by the computer? That's no good.
Then there's the new pizza-hut one in which some bloke keeps looking at his phone and stuff, and doesn't take his jacket off like he'd rather be at workm -it's like the advert is supposed to make people think - yeah our Dad's like that, we never see him, and that's not on either.
I don't get these people that have children and never see then. They go back to work full-time when the child is a couple of months old, and leave it with a nanny the whole time. What's the point of having a child if you're not going to spend time with them, love them, feed htem, care for them? It's no more than an accessory, a tick in the box of a list of achievements. Had a kid - check - jumped out of a plane - check -.
And marriage? That's easy. Been married over seven years and don't see what all of this 'marriage is a struggle - you've got to work at it' lark is all about. We still have bags of fun, make each other laugh and we just don't have anything to argue about.
Most marriages break up because people are stupid. Do they give up too easily? Probably, with some misguided notion that everything will be better around the corner, but when they get there they find it's the same stuff with a different face. People don't work hard enough at keeping what they've got exciting - but everything in society is disposable these days, just throw it away, and pick up a new one.
Seriously though, the most important thing has to be spending time with children. There have been a couple of adverts on TV lately that have really annoyed me. One for Bisto, in which people promise to spewnd one night a week eating togethre as a family. One night a week? That's rubbish. What are the kids going ot do the rest of the week, grab a meal from out of the microwave and eat it sitting by the computer? That's no good.
Then there's the new pizza-hut one in which some bloke keeps looking at his phone and stuff, and doesn't take his jacket off like he'd rather be at workm -it's like the advert is supposed to make people think - yeah our Dad's like that, we never see him, and that's not on either.
I don't get these people that have children and never see then. They go back to work full-time when the child is a couple of months old, and leave it with a nanny the whole time. What's the point of having a child if you're not going to spend time with them, love them, feed htem, care for them? It's no more than an accessory, a tick in the box of a list of achievements. Had a kid - check - jumped out of a plane - check -.
And marriage? That's easy. Been married over seven years and don't see what all of this 'marriage is a struggle - you've got to work at it' lark is all about. We still have bags of fun, make each other laugh and we just don't have anything to argue about.
Most marriages break up because people are stupid. Do they give up too easily? Probably, with some misguided notion that everything will be better around the corner, but when they get there they find it's the same stuff with a different face. People don't work hard enough at keeping what they've got exciting - but everything in society is disposable these days, just throw it away, and pick up a new one.
(here you go again girl - posting from the top of your head - putting your foot in it again!)
> So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one
> day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
I will never have kids nor have I ever wanted them. My sister tells me she remembers me saying that when I was sixteen and I held true to my word.
I do believe that I would have made a good parent but that will never be tested...
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
Setting boundries and keeping to them in a firm way. Values and manners (not actually the word I'm looking for:() are learnt by children at a young age and boundries are always being pushed. Let them dictate what happens in the family and you leave yourself open for a whole load of woe as you lose total control of them.
I think parenting is getting harder and will get worse. Parents seem to be on their own these days. For example - when I was growing up we were watched by the neighbours if my parents were not around - this doesn't seem to happen too much these days. Which I find sad in a way.
Bleeding heart intervention also irratates me! A smack on the leg for unruly behaviour never hurt for long but the shock factor stuck. Nowadays you cannot touch kids and they know it and more and more of them play on it fully to do exactly as they please.
I would be first in line to string up anyone who has abused a child The laws in place do not protect children from abuse and only come into power after an incident. By stating that you must never chastise your child is interference beyond belief.
> And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married?
> Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just
> inevitable?
I am married (16 years) and there are times when I've wished I could walk away but we work through the problems and get on with life. I don't know about inevitable but it is easier and again (like the single parent issue) there is not longer any stigma attached to being divorced.
What should you leave a marriage for and what could you forgive?
You cannot truly answer this until you have been in a marriage / long term relationship. It is easy to say before the fact "I would leave if such and such happened..." but when it comes down to it you cannot know until you are in that situation and can take into consideration the factors that led up to whatever had happened.
> So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one
> day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
I will never have kids nor have I ever wanted them. My sister tells me she remembers me saying that when I was sixteen and I held true to my word.
I do believe that I would have made a good parent but that will never be tested...
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
Setting boundries and keeping to them in a firm way. Values and manners (not actually the word I'm looking for:() are learnt by children at a young age and boundries are always being pushed. Let them dictate what happens in the family and you leave yourself open for a whole load of woe as you lose total control of them.
I think parenting is getting harder and will get worse. Parents seem to be on their own these days. For example - when I was growing up we were watched by the neighbours if my parents were not around - this doesn't seem to happen too much these days. Which I find sad in a way.
Bleeding heart intervention also irratates me! A smack on the leg for unruly behaviour never hurt for long but the shock factor stuck. Nowadays you cannot touch kids and they know it and more and more of them play on it fully to do exactly as they please.
I would be first in line to string up anyone who has abused a child The laws in place do not protect children from abuse and only come into power after an incident. By stating that you must never chastise your child is interference beyond belief.
> And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married?
> Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just
> inevitable?
I am married (16 years) and there are times when I've wished I could walk away but we work through the problems and get on with life. I don't know about inevitable but it is easier and again (like the single parent issue) there is not longer any stigma attached to being divorced.
What should you leave a marriage for and what could you forgive?
You cannot truly answer this until you have been in a marriage / long term relationship. It is easy to say before the fact "I would leave if such and such happened..." but when it comes down to it you cannot know until you are in that situation and can take into consideration the factors that led up to whatever had happened.
pb wrote:
> So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one
> day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
I'm fairly sure I won't. And if I'm honest I don't think I'd make a good parent. I say that because I would fear my doubts and paranoias would be passed on to them.
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
Leading by example..? - But I will say that the things I remember most (concerning my parents influencing me) is their attitude in certain situations - both good and bad. I think children pick up on a lot of stuff - stuff the parents believe is passing over their children's heads.
> So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one
> day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
I'm fairly sure I won't. And if I'm honest I don't think I'd make a good parent. I say that because I would fear my doubts and paranoias would be passed on to them.
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
Leading by example..? - But I will say that the things I remember most (concerning my parents influencing me) is their attitude in certain situations - both good and bad. I think children pick up on a lot of stuff - stuff the parents believe is passing over their children's heads.
Meh, I just can't see marriage working out for me. It would be nice though.
Alfonse wrote:
> I don't want to get married because i'm afraid of getting robbed.
> Sad sad truth.
If this blonde woman with one legs comes up to you and says hi, run a mile!
Seriously though, if you dont want to get robbed, marry someone you trust not to rob you.
> I don't want to get married because i'm afraid of getting robbed.
> Sad sad truth.
If this blonde woman with one legs comes up to you and says hi, run a mile!
Seriously though, if you dont want to get robbed, marry someone you trust not to rob you.
I don't want to get married because i'm afraid of getting robbed. Sad sad truth.
*rubs hands* Ok then ...
> So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one
> day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
I know I will yeah (want kids). Not sure if I'll be a good parent ... I suppose it's something you only know when it happens ... :S Really don't know, like to think I will be though ... :)
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
Heh, well I think the most important things are lots of attention and love. I know some people say that your life won't change much when you have kids, but I think it's down to how much you want it to change. Yeah you can dump them with babysitters or carers and carry on with your daily life ... but that's not what being a parent is about surely. I think if you love them and do everything to ensure they have a good life, suppose your very best is all you can do, there's no rule book or anything. Heh, I'm rambling a bit ..
> And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married?
> Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just
> inevitable? What should you leave a marriage for and what
> could you forgive?
Yeah I think one day perhaps ... I think if you've been in a loving marriage for many years, then yeah it is worth taking steps to try and save it, but if it seems doomed from the start, why waste time and effort and make you both unhappy by trying to fix what can't be fixed? I think trust is the key issue with me, like Corazon says, love, marriage and trust go hand in hand. Without trust ... what do you have?
> So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one
> day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
I know I will yeah (want kids). Not sure if I'll be a good parent ... I suppose it's something you only know when it happens ... :S Really don't know, like to think I will be though ... :)
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
Heh, well I think the most important things are lots of attention and love. I know some people say that your life won't change much when you have kids, but I think it's down to how much you want it to change. Yeah you can dump them with babysitters or carers and carry on with your daily life ... but that's not what being a parent is about surely. I think if you love them and do everything to ensure they have a good life, suppose your very best is all you can do, there's no rule book or anything. Heh, I'm rambling a bit ..
> And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married?
> Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just
> inevitable? What should you leave a marriage for and what
> could you forgive?
Yeah I think one day perhaps ... I think if you've been in a loving marriage for many years, then yeah it is worth taking steps to try and save it, but if it seems doomed from the start, why waste time and effort and make you both unhappy by trying to fix what can't be fixed? I think trust is the key issue with me, like Corazon says, love, marriage and trust go hand in hand. Without trust ... what do you have?
pb wrote:
> So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one
> day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
No idea whether i will, i'd love to though. As for whether i'd be a good parent, i'd either be great or utterly abysmal.
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
I think you have to outsmart the little sods. Just spending time with them, being patient, strong, caring and being completely selfless.
> And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married?
> Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just
> inevitable? What should you leave a marriage for and what
> could you forgive?
Undecided about marriage. I dont think people give up too easily, i think they get married too easily and to the wrong person. When you're with the wrong person it's inevitably doomed.
For me personally i'd only leave a marriage if i found that i didn't trust them anymore. Trust is massively important to me, if you cant confide in that one person then why be with them.
> So, if you don't already have kids, do you think you will one
> day? Do you think you'd make a good parent?
No idea whether i will, i'd love to though. As for whether i'd be a good parent, i'd either be great or utterly abysmal.
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
I think you have to outsmart the little sods. Just spending time with them, being patient, strong, caring and being completely selfless.
> And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married?
> Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just
> inevitable? What should you leave a marriage for and what
> could you forgive?
Undecided about marriage. I dont think people give up too easily, i think they get married too easily and to the wrong person. When you're with the wrong person it's inevitably doomed.
For me personally i'd only leave a marriage if i found that i didn't trust them anymore. Trust is massively important to me, if you cant confide in that one person then why be with them.
pb wrote:
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
Someone who takes the time out to actually love and care for them.Im a great mother, im there for them and i make sure i do my best for them. You can only really do your best. I can guide them through life, but at the end of the day they make there own choices. When there older they will have there own out look on things but i know i would have done my best while there young. Ill always be here for them.
> And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married?
> Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just
> inevitable? What should you leave a marriage for and what
> could you forgive?
I cant see myself getting married. I guess im always in 2 minds about it. I say why have a ring and a peice of paper to prove your love to someone. I guess also that i see to many marriages fail that makes me think why bother it will only end in tears. Seen as i can get a realionship right, i doubt ill get a marriage right either.
> Whether you have kids or not, what makes a good parent in your
> eyes?
Someone who takes the time out to actually love and care for them.Im a great mother, im there for them and i make sure i do my best for them. You can only really do your best. I can guide them through life, but at the end of the day they make there own choices. When there older they will have there own out look on things but i know i would have done my best while there young. Ill always be here for them.
> And the Marriage side...Can you see yourself getting married?
> Should people try harder to stop them failing or is it just
> inevitable? What should you leave a marriage for and what
> could you forgive?
I cant see myself getting married. I guess im always in 2 minds about it. I say why have a ring and a peice of paper to prove your love to someone. I guess also that i see to many marriages fail that makes me think why bother it will only end in tears. Seen as i can get a realionship right, i doubt ill get a marriage right either.
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