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Funny how life throws these things at you.
Last year, everything was great, until one day I phoned to speak to my sister, who used to work for her and my dad, and my dad answered.
He told me that she had stolen £30000 from his business, over 8 months, to feed her heroin addiction.
Yeah, that's pretty nasty, isn't it?
So I get hold of my sister, and she's planning to do a runner. I talk her into staying, and trying to sort herself out.
I even let her stay at my house, totally clearing out my garage, painting the walls, carpetting it, and the life.
She stays with me for a while, having gotten hold of some methadone to get her through the worst of what she'd feel, trying to give up a 4 year habit.
Everything seemed to be going well.
After 10 days or so, she goes out to see her boyfriend, then stays out two nights, and she's been doing drugs again.
She comes back, feels like crap for half a week, until she feels a bit better again.
Next weekend she tells a tale about her boyfriend being taken away to a mental home, and she has to go see him before he gets taken away, so she goes out again.
Anyway, she starts going out to see her boyfriend more and more, (it was he that had a habit when she met him, which is how she got started) and spends a whole week over there over Xmas.
Since she's been back, she's been out almost every day or night, and it seems to me like she's still doing drugs. But as she's been lying to me before, I can't trust a thing she says.
Today she got her giro (as she's now signing on unemployed) and as soon as she got the money, she was over to her boyfriends place. No doubt she'll have blown it all by the time I see her again.
Any advice whatsoever?
I think I've done as much as I can, and now it seems like I'm being taken for a mug, she just comes here when she has no money, and as she was happy to steal £30000 from my parents, could she also steal from me?
Last year, everything was great, until one day I phoned to speak to my sister, who used to work for her and my dad, and my dad answered.
He told me that she had stolen £30000 from his business, over 8 months, to feed her heroin addiction.
Yeah, that's pretty nasty, isn't it?
So I get hold of my sister, and she's planning to do a runner. I talk her into staying, and trying to sort herself out.
I even let her stay at my house, totally clearing out my garage, painting the walls, carpetting it, and the life.
She stays with me for a while, having gotten hold of some methadone to get her through the worst of what she'd feel, trying to give up a 4 year habit.
Everything seemed to be going well.
After 10 days or so, she goes out to see her boyfriend, then stays out two nights, and she's been doing drugs again.
She comes back, feels like crap for half a week, until she feels a bit better again.
Next weekend she tells a tale about her boyfriend being taken away to a mental home, and she has to go see him before he gets taken away, so she goes out again.
Anyway, she starts going out to see her boyfriend more and more, (it was he that had a habit when she met him, which is how she got started) and spends a whole week over there over Xmas.
Since she's been back, she's been out almost every day or night, and it seems to me like she's still doing drugs. But as she's been lying to me before, I can't trust a thing she says.
Today she got her giro (as she's now signing on unemployed) and as soon as she got the money, she was over to her boyfriends place. No doubt she'll have blown it all by the time I see her again.
Any advice whatsoever?
I think I've done as much as I can, and now it seems like I'm being taken for a mug, she just comes here when she has no money, and as she was happy to steal £30000 from my parents, could she also steal from me?
Hey, thanks for all the advice so far.
Belldandy, my dad could easily go to the police, but he wants to give her time to sort herself out (with my help).
I just wanted to add something about why I'm not using my real forum name. It's simply because sometimes she comes on to read my stuff, and there are other people that I know that live locally that read this, and I'd rather they didn't know that about my sister for now.
It's just so hard to know if I'm doing the right thing or not, but at least I've tried to help, I guess.
Belldandy, my dad could easily go to the police, but he wants to give her time to sort herself out (with my help).
I just wanted to add something about why I'm not using my real forum name. It's simply because sometimes she comes on to read my stuff, and there are other people that I know that live locally that read this, and I'd rather they didn't know that about my sister for now.
It's just so hard to know if I'm doing the right thing or not, but at least I've tried to help, I guess.
I'm sorry, I have no solution.
I wish you good luck whatever you do though
I wish you good luck whatever you do though
Sounds to me like she's gettin the gear through her boyfriend. You need to cut the links. Now I'm no expert on stuff like this (and I recommend you go and see one) but she needs to realise that you and her family are far more important than heroin. How about you try and spend some time with her, get her away from her boyfriend and take her out somewhere or whatever. Show her that drugs aren't everything.
National Drugs Helpline - 0800 776600
National Drugs Helpline - 0800 776600
Whilst its got to be tempting to throw her out, this will probably just mean her living with the boyfriend permenantly - if he started her on drugs then this isn't good !
Then again, shes an adult.
Really, I think you're in a pretty much no win situation here.
Maybe, if she did steal from the business, or you, and you can prove it, then tell the police and get her into the legal system - with luck she'll be forced on to a program so she can kick her drugs habit and start gettig a life back.
I hope Mr "lets legalise drugs" Light has read this....
~~Belldandy~~
Then again, shes an adult.
Really, I think you're in a pretty much no win situation here.
Maybe, if she did steal from the business, or you, and you can prove it, then tell the police and get her into the legal system - with luck she'll be forced on to a program so she can kick her drugs habit and start gettig a life back.
I hope Mr "lets legalise drugs" Light has read this....
~~Belldandy~~
Well, nobody can tell you how you're feeling about it more than you can.
And while I guess it's hard, communication is probably the most important thing. She's only human to lust, especially for a taste so strong, so you can't blame her for that.
Because in the end, there aren't exactly many people on this planet that can help your sister. And I'd say you're right up there, top of the pile, of those who can. Don't just kick her out, but tell her what you feel. Plead with her to get help. And don't expect her to listen, or even step one step of the way on her own. And, well, don't give in.
It's the only advice I can possibly offer. I have no idea of the situation you're in.
And while I guess it's hard, communication is probably the most important thing. She's only human to lust, especially for a taste so strong, so you can't blame her for that.
Because in the end, there aren't exactly many people on this planet that can help your sister. And I'd say you're right up there, top of the pile, of those who can. Don't just kick her out, but tell her what you feel. Plead with her to get help. And don't expect her to listen, or even step one step of the way on her own. And, well, don't give in.
It's the only advice I can possibly offer. I have no idea of the situation you're in.
Funny how life throws these things at you.
Last year, everything was great, until one day I phoned to speak to my sister, who used to work for her and my dad, and my dad answered.
He told me that she had stolen £30000 from his business, over 8 months, to feed her heroin addiction.
Yeah, that's pretty nasty, isn't it?
So I get hold of my sister, and she's planning to do a runner. I talk her into staying, and trying to sort herself out.
I even let her stay at my house, totally clearing out my garage, painting the walls, carpetting it, and the life.
She stays with me for a while, having gotten hold of some methadone to get her through the worst of what she'd feel, trying to give up a 4 year habit.
Everything seemed to be going well.
After 10 days or so, she goes out to see her boyfriend, then stays out two nights, and she's been doing drugs again.
She comes back, feels like crap for half a week, until she feels a bit better again.
Next weekend she tells a tale about her boyfriend being taken away to a mental home, and she has to go see him before he gets taken away, so she goes out again.
Anyway, she starts going out to see her boyfriend more and more, (it was he that had a habit when she met him, which is how she got started) and spends a whole week over there over Xmas.
Since she's been back, she's been out almost every day or night, and it seems to me like she's still doing drugs. But as she's been lying to me before, I can't trust a thing she says.
Today she got her giro (as she's now signing on unemployed) and as soon as she got the money, she was over to her boyfriends place. No doubt she'll have blown it all by the time I see her again.
Any advice whatsoever?
I think I've done as much as I can, and now it seems like I'm being taken for a mug, she just comes here when she has no money, and as she was happy to steal £30000 from my parents, could she also steal from me?
Last year, everything was great, until one day I phoned to speak to my sister, who used to work for her and my dad, and my dad answered.
He told me that she had stolen £30000 from his business, over 8 months, to feed her heroin addiction.
Yeah, that's pretty nasty, isn't it?
So I get hold of my sister, and she's planning to do a runner. I talk her into staying, and trying to sort herself out.
I even let her stay at my house, totally clearing out my garage, painting the walls, carpetting it, and the life.
She stays with me for a while, having gotten hold of some methadone to get her through the worst of what she'd feel, trying to give up a 4 year habit.
Everything seemed to be going well.
After 10 days or so, she goes out to see her boyfriend, then stays out two nights, and she's been doing drugs again.
She comes back, feels like crap for half a week, until she feels a bit better again.
Next weekend she tells a tale about her boyfriend being taken away to a mental home, and she has to go see him before he gets taken away, so she goes out again.
Anyway, she starts going out to see her boyfriend more and more, (it was he that had a habit when she met him, which is how she got started) and spends a whole week over there over Xmas.
Since she's been back, she's been out almost every day or night, and it seems to me like she's still doing drugs. But as she's been lying to me before, I can't trust a thing she says.
Today she got her giro (as she's now signing on unemployed) and as soon as she got the money, she was over to her boyfriends place. No doubt she'll have blown it all by the time I see her again.
Any advice whatsoever?
I think I've done as much as I can, and now it seems like I'm being taken for a mug, she just comes here when she has no money, and as she was happy to steal £30000 from my parents, could she also steal from me?