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When you’re a kid you climb trees, throw things at each other, try out dangerous inventions and generally have very little fear of getting hurt. In fact you tend to have more fear of monsters and being alone than of any physical pain.
As we grow we tend to become more fearful of things we know and less of things we don’t. Maybe you get spooked after a particularly scary movie or can’t bear the thought of ghosts, but for the most part, many of us adults are more fearful of those things we wouldn’t think twice about as kids.
As kids we may have been shy at times, but most of the time the need for learning about the world takes precedence over this and we ask questions and do things without thinking twice.
Part of this is because we know far more about what these things can do. We know the damage possible from riding a bike off a high ramp, or jumping off a high wall. We also know more about pain than when we were younger and are wary of hearing things we don’t want to hear. But does this mean we’ve also lost something? That we have more inhabitations?
Some people don’t want to learn once they leave school (some, it can be argued, don’t want to learn even before this), others want to carry on, but at the same time we all lose a bit of the ‘magic’ that went along with learning about the world. Sure, some of this was due to not knowing enough, but I think that we lose our way a bit by making everything so logical. We over-analyse as adults, not stepping back and looking at the world with new eyes. We’re more cynical about things, we hear about stuff on the news and just accept it. Things happen, so what? Perhaps we should look through our childhood eyes at the world for once and see things we don’t see any more, do things that we wouldn’t do.
So, do you think that we grow too cynical or change the way we look at things as we grow older? Is it for the better or worse? Can we learn from children?
As we grow we tend to become more fearful of things we know and less of things we don’t. Maybe you get spooked after a particularly scary movie or can’t bear the thought of ghosts, but for the most part, many of us adults are more fearful of those things we wouldn’t think twice about as kids.
As kids we may have been shy at times, but most of the time the need for learning about the world takes precedence over this and we ask questions and do things without thinking twice.
Part of this is because we know far more about what these things can do. We know the damage possible from riding a bike off a high ramp, or jumping off a high wall. We also know more about pain than when we were younger and are wary of hearing things we don’t want to hear. But does this mean we’ve also lost something? That we have more inhabitations?
Some people don’t want to learn once they leave school (some, it can be argued, don’t want to learn even before this), others want to carry on, but at the same time we all lose a bit of the ‘magic’ that went along with learning about the world. Sure, some of this was due to not knowing enough, but I think that we lose our way a bit by making everything so logical. We over-analyse as adults, not stepping back and looking at the world with new eyes. We’re more cynical about things, we hear about stuff on the news and just accept it. Things happen, so what? Perhaps we should look through our childhood eyes at the world for once and see things we don’t see any more, do things that we wouldn’t do.
So, do you think that we grow too cynical or change the way we look at things as we grow older? Is it for the better or worse? Can we learn from children?
There's a saying "Regret things you have done rather than things you haven't"
When I was a kid I'd try anything and sometimes it wasn't good - one thing that sticks right out in my memory is when I went over a ramp on my bike to pull a big jump, leant forward too much after getting airborne and landing on my front wheel and going over the handlebars. As it was summer I only had a t - shirt and shorts on and took all the skin off my legs and arms - ouch!
Nowadays I'd give it a miss "just in case something bads happens" and I miss out on a lot of things because of this. I'm not as bad as I was but am nowhere near like when I was a kid which bugs me and I'm trying to become more adventurous but there is always the little voice of doubt (or sense probably) at the back of mind which keeps holding me back.
When I was a kid I'd try anything and sometimes it wasn't good - one thing that sticks right out in my memory is when I went over a ramp on my bike to pull a big jump, leant forward too much after getting airborne and landing on my front wheel and going over the handlebars. As it was summer I only had a t - shirt and shorts on and took all the skin off my legs and arms - ouch!
Nowadays I'd give it a miss "just in case something bads happens" and I miss out on a lot of things because of this. I'm not as bad as I was but am nowhere near like when I was a kid which bugs me and I'm trying to become more adventurous but there is always the little voice of doubt (or sense probably) at the back of mind which keeps holding me back.
When i was a lil wee me, i would have probably done just about anything. I was a tomboy kinda kid and would get up to anything. I think i was like this up untill about the age of 16 then i started to get more warey of things and started to fear things more.
When i was about 10 i use to go to this place, it was like a big drop and we use to climb down to where this big tree was growing and it had a rope swing on it. We never use to go there as its dangerous and i couldnt swim and was scared of deep water, and the drop fell in to the sea. We could see the ferries docking in a felixstowe from where we were. Anyway my neighbour at the time fell of this rope swing broke his leg etc and thats when we started going there and use it :s It swung right out over the sea and just the fact we had to be careful not to fall off was just a great feeling. Otherwise you would be washed away cos if you fell in you couldnt get out! I was scared everytime i did it but not scared enough not to go there and do it.
For starters, i cant swim and i have never been able to swim. I use to go swimming and learn like everyone else and i enjoyed it. I guess i could never get the hang of it.
When i lived in germany i neally drowned when i went swimming. I was watching my friends in the diving pool jumping off the top bored and i was stood about holding there towels (about 6 of them) Then some german kid came along and just pushed me in, of course i went in and with these towels i couldnt get out and went straight to the bottom once as the towels were just to heavy, so heavy i couldnt let go of them never mind unwrap the one i had round my waist. My friend who was a good swimmer found it difficult to even swim to the bottom of the diving pool to unwrap the towels and try and get me out but she eventually managed it.
Now it was from then when i never ever dared go near a swimming pool again. I fear them so much!
Now im just get more warey about anything. I think its now im more aware of my surroundings, more aware of what goes on in the media and stuff i tend to just think, oh my what if...
I know i just have to do a little less worrying and if i did id probably do alot more things in life.
When i was about 10 i use to go to this place, it was like a big drop and we use to climb down to where this big tree was growing and it had a rope swing on it. We never use to go there as its dangerous and i couldnt swim and was scared of deep water, and the drop fell in to the sea. We could see the ferries docking in a felixstowe from where we were. Anyway my neighbour at the time fell of this rope swing broke his leg etc and thats when we started going there and use it :s It swung right out over the sea and just the fact we had to be careful not to fall off was just a great feeling. Otherwise you would be washed away cos if you fell in you couldnt get out! I was scared everytime i did it but not scared enough not to go there and do it.
For starters, i cant swim and i have never been able to swim. I use to go swimming and learn like everyone else and i enjoyed it. I guess i could never get the hang of it.
When i lived in germany i neally drowned when i went swimming. I was watching my friends in the diving pool jumping off the top bored and i was stood about holding there towels (about 6 of them) Then some german kid came along and just pushed me in, of course i went in and with these towels i couldnt get out and went straight to the bottom once as the towels were just to heavy, so heavy i couldnt let go of them never mind unwrap the one i had round my waist. My friend who was a good swimmer found it difficult to even swim to the bottom of the diving pool to unwrap the towels and try and get me out but she eventually managed it.
Now it was from then when i never ever dared go near a swimming pool again. I fear them so much!
Now im just get more warey about anything. I think its now im more aware of my surroundings, more aware of what goes on in the media and stuff i tend to just think, oh my what if...
I know i just have to do a little less worrying and if i did id probably do alot more things in life.
pb wrote:
> When you’re a kid you climb trees, throw things at each other,
> try out dangerous inventions and generally have very little fear
> of getting hurt. In fact you tend to have more fear of monsters
> and being alone than of any physical pain.
>
> As we grow we tend to become more fearful of things we know and
> less of things we don’t. Maybe you get spooked after a
> particularly scary movie or can’t bear the thought of ghosts,
> but for the most part, many of us adults are more fearful of
> those things we wouldn’t think twice about as kids.
I myself have become too cautious and logical for my own liking, with just about every decision I make I have to weigh up the pros and cons and if something has more possible cons than pros I usually back out of it, even if the pros are something I really want.
For example when I was a kid there was a little stream in the middle of a field near to where I lived and in the summer when it dried up a favourite pass time for us was to get on our bikes, race across the field and go down into the stream and up the other side, seeing how far you could fly through the air before you came down again.
Inevitabely there were accidents with some people landing front wheel first and flying over the handlebars but most of the time they just picked themselves up and had another go at breaking their record of distance jumped.
Nowadays if I was to think about doing that I'd be thinking "Well I could get hurt here so I won't bother" and not bother doing it, letting my negativity about the situation rule my head and ignoring the fact that I might not get hurt and lose out on all the fun of the situation.
> As kids we may have been shy at times, but most of the time the
> need for learning about the world takes precedence over this and
> we ask questions and do things without thinking twice.
>
> Part of this is because we know far more about what these things
> can do. We know the damage possible from riding a bike off a
> high ramp, or jumping off a high wall. We also know more about
> pain than when we were younger and are wary of hearing things we
> don’t want to hear. But does this mean we’ve also lost
> something? That we have more inhabitations?
I think adults have a lot of illogical and unnecessary inhibitions due to the fact that we are expected to act in a mature and sensible way at all times and if you don't you are seen as acting irresponsibly or weird. I do think however that adults need time off from these expectations to act silly or whatever as "acting" like an adult 24/7 is very hard if not impossible to do.
> Some people don’t want to learn once they leave school (some, it
> can be argued, don’t want to learn even before this), others > want to carry on, but at the same time we all lose a bit of the
> ‘magic’ that went along with learning about the world.
I read an article a while back that stuck in my mind about the different ways adults and children see the same situation in different ways. An personal example I remember is when I first flew back in 1997 when I was 17.
I was very nervous about it thinking about all the negative things that "could" happen - ie were very unlikely to happen even if I flew every day for the rest of my life. What if an engine failed? What if both engines failed? What if the pilots died in mid air? What if the cabin depressurised when we were at cruising altitude?
When we were getting on the plane there were a few children on the flight who all had a completely different view of the same situation. "WOW we're going on a plane up into the sky", "Can we go and meet the pilots" was what they were saying, not bothered about if we crashed etc.
They were looking at the positive side of the situation, a situation which was going to happen where as I was looking at the negative side, a side which had virtually no chance of happening and which I was letting spoil my enjoyment of flying for the first time.
However hard I tried to copy their enthusiasm I couldn't get the negative thoughts out of my head as I'd been drilling them in there for months leading up to the day and inevitabely they had a much more positive experience of that flight than I did.
> Sure, some of this was due to not knowing enough, but I think > that we
> lose our way a bit by making everything so logical. We
> over-analyse as adults, not stepping back and looking at the
> world with new eyes. We’re more cynical about things, we hear
> about stuff on the news and just accept it. Things happen, so
> what? Perhaps we should look through our childhood eyes at the
> world for once and see things we don’t see any more, do things
> that we wouldn’t do.
I over analyse every decision I'm confronted with and even after I've made the decision I go back over it again and again in my head wondering if it was the right one and asking myself if I'd made a different decision would things have turned out better.
I try to just get on with things but can't seem to make gut instinct or "so what with the consequences" spur of the moment decisions like I could as a child and thats something I really wish I still had.
> So, do you think that we grow too cynical or change the way we
> look at things as we grow older? Is it for the better or worse?
> Can we learn from children?
As we grow older we definately become more cynical and change the way we look at things and for the most part it's for the worse. Adults can learn a load from children, well really re-learn loads as we were all children once and had a different attitude and way of looking at things and I for one wish I had a lot more of the characteristics I had as a child than I do now.
> When you’re a kid you climb trees, throw things at each other,
> try out dangerous inventions and generally have very little fear
> of getting hurt. In fact you tend to have more fear of monsters
> and being alone than of any physical pain.
>
> As we grow we tend to become more fearful of things we know and
> less of things we don’t. Maybe you get spooked after a
> particularly scary movie or can’t bear the thought of ghosts,
> but for the most part, many of us adults are more fearful of
> those things we wouldn’t think twice about as kids.
I myself have become too cautious and logical for my own liking, with just about every decision I make I have to weigh up the pros and cons and if something has more possible cons than pros I usually back out of it, even if the pros are something I really want.
For example when I was a kid there was a little stream in the middle of a field near to where I lived and in the summer when it dried up a favourite pass time for us was to get on our bikes, race across the field and go down into the stream and up the other side, seeing how far you could fly through the air before you came down again.
Inevitabely there were accidents with some people landing front wheel first and flying over the handlebars but most of the time they just picked themselves up and had another go at breaking their record of distance jumped.
Nowadays if I was to think about doing that I'd be thinking "Well I could get hurt here so I won't bother" and not bother doing it, letting my negativity about the situation rule my head and ignoring the fact that I might not get hurt and lose out on all the fun of the situation.
> As kids we may have been shy at times, but most of the time the
> need for learning about the world takes precedence over this and
> we ask questions and do things without thinking twice.
>
> Part of this is because we know far more about what these things
> can do. We know the damage possible from riding a bike off a
> high ramp, or jumping off a high wall. We also know more about
> pain than when we were younger and are wary of hearing things we
> don’t want to hear. But does this mean we’ve also lost
> something? That we have more inhabitations?
I think adults have a lot of illogical and unnecessary inhibitions due to the fact that we are expected to act in a mature and sensible way at all times and if you don't you are seen as acting irresponsibly or weird. I do think however that adults need time off from these expectations to act silly or whatever as "acting" like an adult 24/7 is very hard if not impossible to do.
> Some people don’t want to learn once they leave school (some, it
> can be argued, don’t want to learn even before this), others > want to carry on, but at the same time we all lose a bit of the
> ‘magic’ that went along with learning about the world.
I read an article a while back that stuck in my mind about the different ways adults and children see the same situation in different ways. An personal example I remember is when I first flew back in 1997 when I was 17.
I was very nervous about it thinking about all the negative things that "could" happen - ie were very unlikely to happen even if I flew every day for the rest of my life. What if an engine failed? What if both engines failed? What if the pilots died in mid air? What if the cabin depressurised when we were at cruising altitude?
When we were getting on the plane there were a few children on the flight who all had a completely different view of the same situation. "WOW we're going on a plane up into the sky", "Can we go and meet the pilots" was what they were saying, not bothered about if we crashed etc.
They were looking at the positive side of the situation, a situation which was going to happen where as I was looking at the negative side, a side which had virtually no chance of happening and which I was letting spoil my enjoyment of flying for the first time.
However hard I tried to copy their enthusiasm I couldn't get the negative thoughts out of my head as I'd been drilling them in there for months leading up to the day and inevitabely they had a much more positive experience of that flight than I did.
> Sure, some of this was due to not knowing enough, but I think > that we
> lose our way a bit by making everything so logical. We
> over-analyse as adults, not stepping back and looking at the
> world with new eyes. We’re more cynical about things, we hear
> about stuff on the news and just accept it. Things happen, so
> what? Perhaps we should look through our childhood eyes at the
> world for once and see things we don’t see any more, do things
> that we wouldn’t do.
I over analyse every decision I'm confronted with and even after I've made the decision I go back over it again and again in my head wondering if it was the right one and asking myself if I'd made a different decision would things have turned out better.
I try to just get on with things but can't seem to make gut instinct or "so what with the consequences" spur of the moment decisions like I could as a child and thats something I really wish I still had.
> So, do you think that we grow too cynical or change the way we
> look at things as we grow older? Is it for the better or worse?
> Can we learn from children?
As we grow older we definately become more cynical and change the way we look at things and for the most part it's for the worse. Adults can learn a load from children, well really re-learn loads as we were all children once and had a different attitude and way of looking at things and I for one wish I had a lot more of the characteristics I had as a child than I do now.
When you’re a kid you climb trees, throw things at each other, try out dangerous inventions and generally have very little fear of getting hurt. In fact you tend to have more fear of monsters and being alone than of any physical pain.
As we grow we tend to become more fearful of things we know and less of things we don’t. Maybe you get spooked after a particularly scary movie or can’t bear the thought of ghosts, but for the most part, many of us adults are more fearful of those things we wouldn’t think twice about as kids.
As kids we may have been shy at times, but most of the time the need for learning about the world takes precedence over this and we ask questions and do things without thinking twice.
Part of this is because we know far more about what these things can do. We know the damage possible from riding a bike off a high ramp, or jumping off a high wall. We also know more about pain than when we were younger and are wary of hearing things we don’t want to hear. But does this mean we’ve also lost something? That we have more inhabitations?
Some people don’t want to learn once they leave school (some, it can be argued, don’t want to learn even before this), others want to carry on, but at the same time we all lose a bit of the ‘magic’ that went along with learning about the world. Sure, some of this was due to not knowing enough, but I think that we lose our way a bit by making everything so logical. We over-analyse as adults, not stepping back and looking at the world with new eyes. We’re more cynical about things, we hear about stuff on the news and just accept it. Things happen, so what? Perhaps we should look through our childhood eyes at the world for once and see things we don’t see any more, do things that we wouldn’t do.
So, do you think that we grow too cynical or change the way we look at things as we grow older? Is it for the better or worse? Can we learn from children?
As we grow we tend to become more fearful of things we know and less of things we don’t. Maybe you get spooked after a particularly scary movie or can’t bear the thought of ghosts, but for the most part, many of us adults are more fearful of those things we wouldn’t think twice about as kids.
As kids we may have been shy at times, but most of the time the need for learning about the world takes precedence over this and we ask questions and do things without thinking twice.
Part of this is because we know far more about what these things can do. We know the damage possible from riding a bike off a high ramp, or jumping off a high wall. We also know more about pain than when we were younger and are wary of hearing things we don’t want to hear. But does this mean we’ve also lost something? That we have more inhabitations?
Some people don’t want to learn once they leave school (some, it can be argued, don’t want to learn even before this), others want to carry on, but at the same time we all lose a bit of the ‘magic’ that went along with learning about the world. Sure, some of this was due to not knowing enough, but I think that we lose our way a bit by making everything so logical. We over-analyse as adults, not stepping back and looking at the world with new eyes. We’re more cynical about things, we hear about stuff on the news and just accept it. Things happen, so what? Perhaps we should look through our childhood eyes at the world for once and see things we don’t see any more, do things that we wouldn’t do.
So, do you think that we grow too cynical or change the way we look at things as we grow older? Is it for the better or worse? Can we learn from children?