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Sorry it's quite long, but it's worth the read.
Is it right or wrong to grant a dying teenaged boy his wish to have sex? LUCY CLARK examines a modern ethical dilemma:
A 15 YEAR-OLD boy is terminally ill with cancer. He knows he doesn't have very long to live, and he has a dying wish. It is not to go to Disneyland or to meet his favourite actor, rock or sports star but it is this: he wants to make love to a woman. But there's a problem – he's in hospital, he doesn't want to talk to his mum and dad about it, and having been sick and in and out of hospital since the age of 12, he has formed no friendships or relationships with girls from his peer group.
The boy, let's call him Jack, simply wants to experience what every testosterone-driven heterosexual teenage boy thinks about, allegedly, every 17 seconds. Sex.
So what does he do?
It sounds like a hypothetical situation, but this story is true and Jack is real. His heartbreaking story about death and desire came to light last month when the child psychologist dealing with Jack wrote a letter to the Radio National program, Life Matters, in which moral dilemmas are discussed by academics.
It's a fascinating topic for academic discussion: how does a minor and the people who care for him tread though the ethical and practical minefield to see that he gets such a wish?
And firstly, should he even be granted his wish?
While many of us might scream reflexively "Yes! Of course!", cautious ethicists may ask questions.
Is a 15 year-old, officially a child, intellectually and emotionally competent to make such a mature decision? Do the parents have a right to know? Should the woman involved be charged with the criminal offence of having sex with a minor? Should a prostitute be involved? Should the hospital staff help to organise something?
All valid questions ripe for discussion, but forget the academic debate. What happened to Jack himself?
Yesterday, the child psychologist – who wishes to remain anonymous – told The Daily Telegraph the rest of the dying boy's story.
He had become involved after a nurse tending Jack – the only person Jack took into his confidence – urged the boy to talk to him.
So Jack spoke to the child psychologist, who specifically deals with children dying of terminal diseases, and this was not the first time the psychologist had heard of such a wish from a teenage boy.
"He had been sick for quite a long period and his schooling was very disrupted, so he hadn't had many opportunities to acquire and retain friends, and his access to young women was pretty poor," said the psychologist.
"But he was very interested in young women and was experiencing that surge of testosterone that teenage boys have."
So Jack and the psychologist had a series of thorough discussions in which they went through every possible permutation of what might happen to him physically and emotionally so that he was "completely prepared" for the prospect of living out his final dream.
Jack's state of mind, he said, was sensible and mature and psychologically, totally competent. As he said: "Terminally ill kids get very wise, very quickly" and Jack had been sick for a long time.
The hospital staff who knew about Jack's wish at first wanted to help, their first reaction being "let's do a whip around and pay for a prostitute" but of course ethical and legal considerations stopped them in their tracks.
The psychologist also had canvassed members of the clergy, and found an interesting response: "It really polarised them, about half said what's your problem? And the other half said [the idea] demeans women and reduces the sexual act to being just a physical one.
"I just saw it as a legitimate request of a young man who wants to experience something that can do no harm."
The psychologist said that with Jack, he rigorously questioned what damage might be done to him as a result of fulfilling his wish, and the answer came up every time: none.
"Everyone's uncomfortable with teenage sex, period," said the psychologist. "Adolescents becoming sexual is enormously confronting, and a lot of people believe that kids shouldn't be sexual. But we are sexual from the womb to the tomb – that's my view.
"But ethics and morals aside, in children dying over a long period of time, there is often a condition we call 'skin hunger'."
This happens when a child, seriously ill and in and out of hospital and receiving medical treatment over a long period, yearns for non-clinical contact because "mostly when people touch them, it's to do something unpleasant, something that might hurt".
"So you ask," said the psychologist, "what was this young man wanting?
"Was he wanting a cuddle?"
Probably yes, but as his illness and its treatment hadn't obliterated his normal teenage urges, he also really wanted that consummate experience.
So without his parents knowing, and completely without the involvement of the hospital staff, and not – it must be stressed – on the hospital's premises, Jack "did engage in the act and it was everything he wished it to be".
"He was very, very happy and only slightly disappointed that it was over quickly."
"The act", his dying wish, was with a sex worker who was "organised by friends who thought it was the right thing to do". All precautions were taken, and the friends made sure the act was fully consensual and involved no abuse or exploitation.
As for the legal ramifications of such a case, "quite clearly the law was broken, but of the people involved, most didn't give a toss," the psychologist said.
And what of the parent's right to know about their son?
Jack simply didn't want to talk to them about it.
He loved them, but they are religious and he didn't want them to know. Anyway, what 15-year-old boy does want to talk to his parents about sex, even under normal circumstances?
There is also legal precedence for a minor of sufficient maturity and intelligence to be given confidential medical treatment but does sex with a prostitute count as treatment?
"Absolutely. It is absolutely part of therapy," said the psychologist, "Because it was what he wanted. People talk about a trip to Disneyland being therapeutic what's the difference? It was what he wanted."
So Jack got what he wanted, and last week, he finally lost his fight with the cancer.
I think it was fair granting him the wish, as he was about to die.
What would be your last wish if you're were dying of cancer?
Aside from NOT dying from Cancer, mine would be probably to have sexual intercourse (if I hadn't had it already) or meet someone famous. I'd like to meet everyone from Special Reserve - that would be cool!
Is it right or wrong to grant a dying teenaged boy his wish to have sex? LUCY CLARK examines a modern ethical dilemma:
A 15 YEAR-OLD boy is terminally ill with cancer. He knows he doesn't have very long to live, and he has a dying wish. It is not to go to Disneyland or to meet his favourite actor, rock or sports star but it is this: he wants to make love to a woman. But there's a problem – he's in hospital, he doesn't want to talk to his mum and dad about it, and having been sick and in and out of hospital since the age of 12, he has formed no friendships or relationships with girls from his peer group.
The boy, let's call him Jack, simply wants to experience what every testosterone-driven heterosexual teenage boy thinks about, allegedly, every 17 seconds. Sex.
So what does he do?
It sounds like a hypothetical situation, but this story is true and Jack is real. His heartbreaking story about death and desire came to light last month when the child psychologist dealing with Jack wrote a letter to the Radio National program, Life Matters, in which moral dilemmas are discussed by academics.
It's a fascinating topic for academic discussion: how does a minor and the people who care for him tread though the ethical and practical minefield to see that he gets such a wish?
And firstly, should he even be granted his wish?
While many of us might scream reflexively "Yes! Of course!", cautious ethicists may ask questions.
Is a 15 year-old, officially a child, intellectually and emotionally competent to make such a mature decision? Do the parents have a right to know? Should the woman involved be charged with the criminal offence of having sex with a minor? Should a prostitute be involved? Should the hospital staff help to organise something?
All valid questions ripe for discussion, but forget the academic debate. What happened to Jack himself?
Yesterday, the child psychologist – who wishes to remain anonymous – told The Daily Telegraph the rest of the dying boy's story.
He had become involved after a nurse tending Jack – the only person Jack took into his confidence – urged the boy to talk to him.
So Jack spoke to the child psychologist, who specifically deals with children dying of terminal diseases, and this was not the first time the psychologist had heard of such a wish from a teenage boy.
"He had been sick for quite a long period and his schooling was very disrupted, so he hadn't had many opportunities to acquire and retain friends, and his access to young women was pretty poor," said the psychologist.
"But he was very interested in young women and was experiencing that surge of testosterone that teenage boys have."
So Jack and the psychologist had a series of thorough discussions in which they went through every possible permutation of what might happen to him physically and emotionally so that he was "completely prepared" for the prospect of living out his final dream.
Jack's state of mind, he said, was sensible and mature and psychologically, totally competent. As he said: "Terminally ill kids get very wise, very quickly" and Jack had been sick for a long time.
The hospital staff who knew about Jack's wish at first wanted to help, their first reaction being "let's do a whip around and pay for a prostitute" but of course ethical and legal considerations stopped them in their tracks.
The psychologist also had canvassed members of the clergy, and found an interesting response: "It really polarised them, about half said what's your problem? And the other half said [the idea] demeans women and reduces the sexual act to being just a physical one.
"I just saw it as a legitimate request of a young man who wants to experience something that can do no harm."
The psychologist said that with Jack, he rigorously questioned what damage might be done to him as a result of fulfilling his wish, and the answer came up every time: none.
"Everyone's uncomfortable with teenage sex, period," said the psychologist. "Adolescents becoming sexual is enormously confronting, and a lot of people believe that kids shouldn't be sexual. But we are sexual from the womb to the tomb – that's my view.
"But ethics and morals aside, in children dying over a long period of time, there is often a condition we call 'skin hunger'."
This happens when a child, seriously ill and in and out of hospital and receiving medical treatment over a long period, yearns for non-clinical contact because "mostly when people touch them, it's to do something unpleasant, something that might hurt".
"So you ask," said the psychologist, "what was this young man wanting?
"Was he wanting a cuddle?"
Probably yes, but as his illness and its treatment hadn't obliterated his normal teenage urges, he also really wanted that consummate experience.
So without his parents knowing, and completely without the involvement of the hospital staff, and not – it must be stressed – on the hospital's premises, Jack "did engage in the act and it was everything he wished it to be".
"He was very, very happy and only slightly disappointed that it was over quickly."
"The act", his dying wish, was with a sex worker who was "organised by friends who thought it was the right thing to do". All precautions were taken, and the friends made sure the act was fully consensual and involved no abuse or exploitation.
As for the legal ramifications of such a case, "quite clearly the law was broken, but of the people involved, most didn't give a toss," the psychologist said.
And what of the parent's right to know about their son?
Jack simply didn't want to talk to them about it.
He loved them, but they are religious and he didn't want them to know. Anyway, what 15-year-old boy does want to talk to his parents about sex, even under normal circumstances?
There is also legal precedence for a minor of sufficient maturity and intelligence to be given confidential medical treatment but does sex with a prostitute count as treatment?
"Absolutely. It is absolutely part of therapy," said the psychologist, "Because it was what he wanted. People talk about a trip to Disneyland being therapeutic what's the difference? It was what he wanted."
So Jack got what he wanted, and last week, he finally lost his fight with the cancer.
I think it was fair granting him the wish, as he was about to die.
What would be your last wish if you're were dying of cancer?
Aside from NOT dying from Cancer, mine would be probably to have sexual intercourse (if I hadn't had it already) or meet someone famous. I'd like to meet everyone from Special Reserve - that would be cool!
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I think it's nobody's business but this kid what he wanted to do.
Like people under the age of 16 don't have sex...yeah right.
Like people under the age of 16 don't have sex...yeah right.
i'd like to share a giant plate full of muffins whjile talking to Homer J simpson :)
Yeah, I'm glad he got his wish. I expect that would be the final wish of many teenage boys who had not yet taken part in sexual intercourse anyway.
I probably would like to meet a few of the people on here. It would be very interesting.... especially Tony.
My ambition is to say 'er-no!' to his face...
....ahh.. what a dream. heh.
My ambition is to say 'er-no!' to his face...
....ahh.. what a dream. heh.
Looking at the title it sounds like Helena Bonham Carter's character in Fight Club. But she's a she and is older in the film. But she is dying of cancer though.
outlaw_uk2002 wrote:
> But isn't is illegal for under 16's?
Yup, but this kid's dying for chrissakes!
> But isn't is illegal for under 16's?
Yup, but this kid's dying for chrissakes!
It's said that in the report. Anyway he won't live to see his 16th birthday. If he was over 16 there wouldn't be a news report on it. I would be taken naturally.
But isn't is illegal for under 16's?
Salevaa where are you getting these news reports from?????
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