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My girlfriend's sister (and I think a lot of parents in Singapore) allows her daughter to sleep in their bed(room). What are your views on "co-sleeping"?
I don't think I ever slept with my parents, we were always kept in a seperate room. So I thought everyone as soon as they had a baby, had her/him in the cot maybe for awhile in their room before putting them in their own room. But I guess I was wrong.
I did some googling on the topic and whether it was a good thing or bad thing. I found some single mothers, they were happy to allow their kids to sleep with them, some as old as 10. They also talked about how some people thought they were crazy for allowing it. I was quite suprised by how many did it, or maybe it was just that they were more vocal than those that don't. I did find one woman who wanted advice because she allowed her young daughter but now has a boyfriend and wanted privacy. I'm guessing that's one of the main problems for couples and might cause them problems.
My girlfriends sister, her daughter is only one and a half now. Her room is all finished now but I dont think they have started to get her to sleep on her own. I wondered if it made her more clingy to her mother. I'm sure she wont be happy to be pulled away especially as she's gotten us to it for almost 2 years now.
Anyway just wondered what your views were on it, Ladybird your kids are older now but what did you do when they were growing up?
I don't think I ever slept with my parents, we were always kept in a seperate room. So I thought everyone as soon as they had a baby, had her/him in the cot maybe for awhile in their room before putting them in their own room. But I guess I was wrong.
I did some googling on the topic and whether it was a good thing or bad thing. I found some single mothers, they were happy to allow their kids to sleep with them, some as old as 10. They also talked about how some people thought they were crazy for allowing it. I was quite suprised by how many did it, or maybe it was just that they were more vocal than those that don't. I did find one woman who wanted advice because she allowed her young daughter but now has a boyfriend and wanted privacy. I'm guessing that's one of the main problems for couples and might cause them problems.
My girlfriends sister, her daughter is only one and a half now. Her room is all finished now but I dont think they have started to get her to sleep on her own. I wondered if it made her more clingy to her mother. I'm sure she wont be happy to be pulled away especially as she's gotten us to it for almost 2 years now.
Anyway just wondered what your views were on it, Ladybird your kids are older now but what did you do when they were growing up?
Machie wrote:
> Perhaps I should have asked about bathing with your kids. My ex
> finally stopped bathing with her son when he was 6. But then
> it's common in Japan.
Ive never took a bath with my boys. Just something i never wanted to do.
> Perhaps I should have asked about bathing with your kids. My ex
> finally stopped bathing with her son when he was 6. But then
> it's common in Japan.
Ive never took a bath with my boys. Just something i never wanted to do.
We've had Ana Maria and Alana in with us when they were small, partly due to Gina being so tired while feeding. But one of us always stayed awake most of the time and put them back in their cot as soon as they were ready.
I think its fine when they're that young. Ana Maria usually wants cuddles when she wakes up in the morning, so she does come into bed with us then, but only just before we get up.
Occassionally when Ana Maria was ill, she'd go to sleep in my arms in bed, then I'd move her. She does still like to go into my bed while I read her a story, but then usually goes back in her own bed when its time to go to sleep.
Pyschologists will tell you all sorts of things about how it affects children, but none of them really agree and to be honest I don't think it hurts if they're under say 2 years old, but they do need some independence as well. Obviously, some children will be different to others too and boys and girls might be different.
I think its fine when they're that young. Ana Maria usually wants cuddles when she wakes up in the morning, so she does come into bed with us then, but only just before we get up.
Occassionally when Ana Maria was ill, she'd go to sleep in my arms in bed, then I'd move her. She does still like to go into my bed while I read her a story, but then usually goes back in her own bed when its time to go to sleep.
Pyschologists will tell you all sorts of things about how it affects children, but none of them really agree and to be honest I don't think it hurts if they're under say 2 years old, but they do need some independence as well. Obviously, some children will be different to others too and boys and girls might be different.
Seraphim wrote:
> I will NOT have New babies in the same bed as me. I did it once
> with Tommy and never again. Its so dangerous.
Yes I wouldnt advise anyone trying that.
I dont mind having my kids sleep in our bed but I wouldnt want to encourage it.
Perhaps I should have asked about bathing with your kids. My ex finally stopped bathing with her son when he was 6. But then it's common in Japan.
> I will NOT have New babies in the same bed as me. I did it once
> with Tommy and never again. Its so dangerous.
Yes I wouldnt advise anyone trying that.
I dont mind having my kids sleep in our bed but I wouldnt want to encourage it.
Perhaps I should have asked about bathing with your kids. My ex finally stopped bathing with her son when he was 6. But then it's common in Japan.
I think it's supposed to be fine until they've aquired object permanence, that is they've realised that things dont stop existing just because they're out of view. I cant quite remember at what age they gain that, it might be around 12-18 months. Rasta will know.
My lil ones stay in my room usually till there about 6-9 months old then i move them to their room. But seen as Tyler has no room and the pair of them wont sleep in the same room together at the minute Tyler is still in my room. (In a cot)However once ive moved or i know what im doing and where im going to be they will be together in the same room.
Tommy at 3 Comes in my bed now and again. However its not a constant thing. I dont have him in there because he wont sleep in his room. I think more then anything if he wants to ill let him. But more often then not he is in his room.
When the new baby arrives he will be in my room for the 1st 6 months or so. Then in to his own room.
I will NOT have New babies in the same bed as me. I did it once with Tommy and never again. Its so dangerous.
Each to thir own though. Everyones different and has different views on different things.
I cant wait till ive got my own room and my own space :D
Tommy at 3 Comes in my bed now and again. However its not a constant thing. I dont have him in there because he wont sleep in his room. I think more then anything if he wants to ill let him. But more often then not he is in his room.
When the new baby arrives he will be in my room for the 1st 6 months or so. Then in to his own room.
I will NOT have New babies in the same bed as me. I did it once with Tommy and never again. Its so dangerous.
Each to thir own though. Everyones different and has different views on different things.
I cant wait till ive got my own room and my own space :D
My girlfriend's sister (and I think a lot of parents in Singapore) allows her daughter to sleep in their bed(room). What are your views on "co-sleeping"?
I don't think I ever slept with my parents, we were always kept in a seperate room. So I thought everyone as soon as they had a baby, had her/him in the cot maybe for awhile in their room before putting them in their own room. But I guess I was wrong.
I did some googling on the topic and whether it was a good thing or bad thing. I found some single mothers, they were happy to allow their kids to sleep with them, some as old as 10. They also talked about how some people thought they were crazy for allowing it. I was quite suprised by how many did it, or maybe it was just that they were more vocal than those that don't. I did find one woman who wanted advice because she allowed her young daughter but now has a boyfriend and wanted privacy. I'm guessing that's one of the main problems for couples and might cause them problems.
My girlfriends sister, her daughter is only one and a half now. Her room is all finished now but I dont think they have started to get her to sleep on her own. I wondered if it made her more clingy to her mother. I'm sure she wont be happy to be pulled away especially as she's gotten us to it for almost 2 years now.
Anyway just wondered what your views were on it, Ladybird your kids are older now but what did you do when they were growing up?
I don't think I ever slept with my parents, we were always kept in a seperate room. So I thought everyone as soon as they had a baby, had her/him in the cot maybe for awhile in their room before putting them in their own room. But I guess I was wrong.
I did some googling on the topic and whether it was a good thing or bad thing. I found some single mothers, they were happy to allow their kids to sleep with them, some as old as 10. They also talked about how some people thought they were crazy for allowing it. I was quite suprised by how many did it, or maybe it was just that they were more vocal than those that don't. I did find one woman who wanted advice because she allowed her young daughter but now has a boyfriend and wanted privacy. I'm guessing that's one of the main problems for couples and might cause them problems.
My girlfriends sister, her daughter is only one and a half now. Her room is all finished now but I dont think they have started to get her to sleep on her own. I wondered if it made her more clingy to her mother. I'm sure she wont be happy to be pulled away especially as she's gotten us to it for almost 2 years now.
Anyway just wondered what your views were on it, Ladybird your kids are older now but what did you do when they were growing up?