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A friend of mine keeps making her self sick and she is doing it more and more.
I try to tell her that its not healthy and she should stop, but she doesnt listen, and says that it's nothing.
I read some things on it, and she is fitting the perfect description of bulimia, and is in a state of denial about her condition.
Can someone give me some help on this?
I try to tell her that its not healthy and she should stop, but she doesnt listen, and says that it's nothing.
I read some things on it, and she is fitting the perfect description of bulimia, and is in a state of denial about her condition.
Can someone give me some help on this?
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Yeah, i know what you mean.
Jim-hat you gump. You dont know who im talking about though. Although if you thought hard you could probably guess.
Jim-hat you gump. You dont know who im talking about though. Although if you thought hard you could probably guess.
I'd give her a slap.
She need to understand this is bad.
And you need to tell her parents.
Even if you promised not to tell anyone - you don't want a death you could have prevented on your mind.
I mean: if she'll make herself throw up without a problem, how long before she starts cutting herself?
She need to understand this is bad.
And you need to tell her parents.
Even if you promised not to tell anyone - you don't want a death you could have prevented on your mind.
I mean: if she'll make herself throw up without a problem, how long before she starts cutting herself?
Is she really in Denial? Or does she just not realise that she is infact doing these things to herself?
With situations where people do not realising they are doing things (maybe snoring in bed, or screaming the village down while making Love...?), I've heard it often works out best if you are able to show the person what they are doing.
You need evidence of her doing these things. Perhaps you do need to shove it in her face to make her realise the obvious truth.
However, you must handle these situations delicately. If you are too forceful, too strong and reveal too much too fast, it could affect her cofidence and the way she reacts around other people (especialy yourself).
You could try breaking it to her gently, but... It's all up to you really. :)
With situations where people do not realising they are doing things (maybe snoring in bed, or screaming the village down while making Love...?), I've heard it often works out best if you are able to show the person what they are doing.
You need evidence of her doing these things. Perhaps you do need to shove it in her face to make her realise the obvious truth.
However, you must handle these situations delicately. If you are too forceful, too strong and reveal too much too fast, it could affect her cofidence and the way she reacts around other people (especialy yourself).
You could try breaking it to her gently, but... It's all up to you really. :)
H²O wrote:
> (But you guys are alright, because none of you know me or know her,
> so shh)
Ha, yeah right, idiot.
> (But you guys are alright, because none of you know me or know her,
> so shh)
Ha, yeah right, idiot.
Just be careful, if this spirals too far out of control she could end up doing the worst harm possible to herself. All the best.
Hmm, it's such a though desision, she made me promise i wouldnt tell anyone.
(But you guys are alright, because none of you know me or know her, so shh)
She says she will try and stop, but i think she was just saying it.
I think the best thing for me to do, as hard as it may be, to let her do it and let her find out her self that it's not a good thing, i.e. wait for her to get ill from it.
Sounds a bit mean, but i think it's the only way without other people involved.
(But you guys are alright, because none of you know me or know her, so shh)
She says she will try and stop, but i think she was just saying it.
I think the best thing for me to do, as hard as it may be, to let her do it and let her find out her self that it's not a good thing, i.e. wait for her to get ill from it.
Sounds a bit mean, but i think it's the only way without other people involved.
AliBoy wrote:
> Observe her a bit more just to be sure and then if you are positive
> that she is showing signs then you need to let her family know about
> it.
>
> Also try help her and let her know the dangers and try help her
> through it if you can.
That won't work, the mindset of bullimia is that that are unable to see a problem and will ignore any advice until there is a very obvious problem, i have to say i would go to her parents, it may cost you her friendship but that is what i would do.
> Observe her a bit more just to be sure and then if you are positive
> that she is showing signs then you need to let her family know about
> it.
>
> Also try help her and let her know the dangers and try help her
> through it if you can.
That won't work, the mindset of bullimia is that that are unable to see a problem and will ignore any advice until there is a very obvious problem, i have to say i would go to her parents, it may cost you her friendship but that is what i would do.
Observe her a bit more just to be sure and then if you are positive that she is showing signs then you need to let her family know about it.
Also try help her and let her know the dangers and try help her through it if you can.
Also try help her and let her know the dangers and try help her through it if you can.
To be honest, if you have observed such a change in her appearance at least it shows she has a good friend. That is, of course, unless you found out through other means. Hopefully this indicates that she will have strong support through this time anyway.
My advice is that if you are going to confront her about it, and tell her to get a checkup or something, then assure her that she means a lot to you. If she means a lot to you then she has no reason not to accept your advice, even if she doesn't use it. Perhaps try and subtly make her aware of the dangers of what she is doing, and say that whatever she wants to do you are willing to help out, just basically consolidating your support. Just don't go crazy and spew all the dangers and wrongs about doing what she is (even if you want to), that is only going to scare her.
Being somebody who has been through serious depression, and has also often attempted to offer support and advice to a couple of my friends when they were going through rough times, I hope my short piece of advice helps.
My advice is that if you are going to confront her about it, and tell her to get a checkup or something, then assure her that she means a lot to you. If she means a lot to you then she has no reason not to accept your advice, even if she doesn't use it. Perhaps try and subtly make her aware of the dangers of what she is doing, and say that whatever she wants to do you are willing to help out, just basically consolidating your support. Just don't go crazy and spew all the dangers and wrongs about doing what she is (even if you want to), that is only going to scare her.
Being somebody who has been through serious depression, and has also often attempted to offer support and advice to a couple of my friends when they were going through rough times, I hope my short piece of advice helps.
Nothing helpful to say really. No matter what you do at the moment it will probably be the wrong thing. I could say something empty like, "just be there for her", but what does that even mean?
I guess just out-right confronting her with it would be an option.
As would telling someone else, but pretty much what ever you do at the moment you will not be thanked for.
Tough situation.
I guess just out-right confronting her with it would be an option.
As would telling someone else, but pretty much what ever you do at the moment you will not be thanked for.
Tough situation.
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