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I am concerned that my 15-year-old son is watching porn on the internet. I know it's natural for boys of that age to be curious about these sites, but I am worried about what effect they may have on him. He has been looking at naked women and couples having sex. I understand that some porn sites can be extremely unpleasant. Can I filter them out? How should I approach the subject, or should I just hope he becomes bored with them? He is outgoing, has a good social life and is doing well in school.
It is best that either you or his father, whoever feels easiest, talks to him so that he knowns you are aware that he watches porn. Don't be disapproving, but explain that porn portrays women as sex objects and does not show the love and tenderness which are part of a good sexual relationship. That way, if he felt exploited or under peer pressure to watch porn, he could talk to you or his father. Keeping communication open is the key and the fact that he seems to be happy and well rounded helps. You can buy 'age-appropriate filtering software' at any computer shop to screen out unsuitable sites.
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heh, so what do you think? Do you agree with the advice? =P
He's outgoing, has a good social life and does well in school. So what's the problem? =S I think it would be an even more "extremely unpleasant" experience for him, if you're to sit him down and tell him you know he watches porn and you don't disapprove. Oh and that porn portrays women as sex objects!
I can understand your peers encouraging you to drink and smoke, but to look at porn? =S
With my kids I'll just do what my parents did, which was nothing. Not sure what the rest of you will do when your kids discover porn. =)
I am concerned that my 15-year-old son is watching porn on the internet. I know it's natural for boys of that age to be curious about these sites, but I am worried about what effect they may have on him. He has been looking at naked women and couples having sex. I understand that some porn sites can be extremely unpleasant. Can I filter them out? How should I approach the subject, or should I just hope he becomes bored with them? He is outgoing, has a good social life and is doing well in school.
It is best that either you or his father, whoever feels easiest, talks to him so that he knowns you are aware that he watches porn. Don't be disapproving, but explain that porn portrays women as sex objects and does not show the love and tenderness which are part of a good sexual relationship. That way, if he felt exploited or under peer pressure to watch porn, he could talk to you or his father. Keeping communication open is the key and the fact that he seems to be happy and well rounded helps. You can buy 'age-appropriate filtering software' at any computer shop to screen out unsuitable sites.
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heh, so what do you think? Do you agree with the advice? =P
He's outgoing, has a good social life and does well in school. So what's the problem? =S I think it would be an even more "extremely unpleasant" experience for him, if you're to sit him down and tell him you know he watches porn and you don't disapprove. Oh and that porn portrays women as sex objects!
I can understand your peers encouraging you to drink and smoke, but to look at porn? =S
With my kids I'll just do what my parents did, which was nothing. Not sure what the rest of you will do when your kids discover porn. =)
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Machie wrote:
> Yeah but at 11, if I wanted to look at naked ladies, even with
> filters I would find a way to get pass them.
Not if the pc is in the front room where your parents can normally be found. :D It is too easy for kids to find porn but it doesnt have to be that way.
Oh and i doubt Vera has filters, she wouldn't be able to watch porn if she did ;)
> Yeah but at 11, if I wanted to look at naked ladies, even with
> filters I would find a way to get pass them.
Not if the pc is in the front room where your parents can normally be found. :D It is too easy for kids to find porn but it doesnt have to be that way.
Oh and i doubt Vera has filters, she wouldn't be able to watch porn if she did ;)
The internet has zero to filter porn from young people, you/someone has to actively put those filters in place most of the time.
Most things these days are only a google away be it homework research or naughty images.
Unfortunately there is a generation that haven't quite put the effort in to learn about computers and the internet and only ever hear the bad side of it through the news of some child giving out details they shouldn't have.
Parents do need too take more of an interest in what their computers are able to access and even if the computer is the child's the parent needs to enforce some filters.
I'm willing to make up the statistic that 90% of people don't learn about sex from their parents, i doubt many people on here ever got "the talk" from a parent before they already knew something.
As the letter says "he is outgoing and does well at school", surely then it's not that bigger deal? i mean if all he did was sit at the computer looking at porn and was failing all his classes it would be a different matter but as it is it doesn't sound like it's effecting him in the slightest.
I wonder if she is just worried about the type on content that he can access easily. As it's not all brilliant dialogue and in-depth story.
Most things these days are only a google away be it homework research or naughty images.
Unfortunately there is a generation that haven't quite put the effort in to learn about computers and the internet and only ever hear the bad side of it through the news of some child giving out details they shouldn't have.
Parents do need too take more of an interest in what their computers are able to access and even if the computer is the child's the parent needs to enforce some filters.
I'm willing to make up the statistic that 90% of people don't learn about sex from their parents, i doubt many people on here ever got "the talk" from a parent before they already knew something.
As the letter says "he is outgoing and does well at school", surely then it's not that bigger deal? i mean if all he did was sit at the computer looking at porn and was failing all his classes it would be a different matter but as it is it doesn't sound like it's effecting him in the slightest.
I wonder if she is just worried about the type on content that he can access easily. As it's not all brilliant dialogue and in-depth story.
Maybe this is from the view of someone who grew up with the internet around, but, to some extent watching porn is a natural part of the teenage life.
Now when I say that I mean almost everyone will have been exposed to some form of internet porn at least a few times in their life. The first time I saw porn was probably in an 18-rated film, and some of the scenes there are just as bad as the easily accesible porn.
Porn, in tems of what can be accessed, is less hardcore than is always portrayed - I mean, should you look at a free site it's unlikely that anything 'malicious' would be seen. The stranger, twisted versions really start when a person goes off Google or 'goes from the beaten track' a bit, by going through links.
Kids may be kids, but they're still in their teens and aware of what's 'normal', it's unlikely they will expose themselves to the 'disgusting' sites available, or if they do, will quickly get away from them. In some ways it's more like a rite of passage (sort of!). I wouldn't say peer pressure is involved though, really, unless you count something like links on MSN.
I found I used it when I was curious, not really knowing that much about the mechanics of things. For me, the softer side of porn shows people things that the awful sex education they show really doesn't. It never seems to really show things, properly. Having said that, it's obvious that porn is exaggerated and, to many women, is offensive - due to the objectifying of women. However, 'pornstars' are consenting women who put themself in that position.. no pun intended ;)
Now when I say that I mean almost everyone will have been exposed to some form of internet porn at least a few times in their life. The first time I saw porn was probably in an 18-rated film, and some of the scenes there are just as bad as the easily accesible porn.
Porn, in tems of what can be accessed, is less hardcore than is always portrayed - I mean, should you look at a free site it's unlikely that anything 'malicious' would be seen. The stranger, twisted versions really start when a person goes off Google or 'goes from the beaten track' a bit, by going through links.
Kids may be kids, but they're still in their teens and aware of what's 'normal', it's unlikely they will expose themselves to the 'disgusting' sites available, or if they do, will quickly get away from them. In some ways it's more like a rite of passage (sort of!). I wouldn't say peer pressure is involved though, really, unless you count something like links on MSN.
I found I used it when I was curious, not really knowing that much about the mechanics of things. For me, the softer side of porn shows people things that the awful sex education they show really doesn't. It never seems to really show things, properly. Having said that, it's obvious that porn is exaggerated and, to many women, is offensive - due to the objectifying of women. However, 'pornstars' are consenting women who put themself in that position.. no pun intended ;)
Machie wrote:
> My experience to porn was The Sun's Page 3 girls =P For people
> like Alfonse, his first exposure to porn would have been the
> internet, right Alfonse?
I really don't remember.
Did you go nuts
Erm no.
and find lots of
> unpleasant stuff?
The unpleasant stuff found me.
> My experience to porn was The Sun's Page 3 girls =P For people
> like Alfonse, his first exposure to porn would have been the
> internet, right Alfonse?
I really don't remember.
Did you go nuts
Erm no.
and find lots of
> unpleasant stuff?
The unpleasant stuff found me.
Machie wrote:
> Yeah but at 11, if I wanted to look at naked ladies, even with
> filters I would find a way to get pass them. That's if your
> parents put in filters. I wonder if @ngel's internet access is
> filtered.
No its not filtered. Im 25 years old for crying out loud! ;)
> Yeah but at 11, if I wanted to look at naked ladies, even with
> filters I would find a way to get pass them. That's if your
> parents put in filters. I wonder if @ngel's internet access is
> filtered.
No its not filtered. Im 25 years old for crying out loud! ;)
Nin wrote:
> Not if the pc is in the front room where your parents can
> normally be found. :D It is too easy for kids to find porn but
> it doesnt have to be that way.
Yeah my pc is in the front room, im always able to see what he's looking at. Im sure at this age the last thing on his list is porn.
> Oh and i doubt Vera has filters, she wouldn't be able to watch
> porn if she did ;)
Exactly!
> Not if the pc is in the front room where your parents can
> normally be found. :D It is too easy for kids to find porn but
> it doesnt have to be that way.
Yeah my pc is in the front room, im always able to see what he's looking at. Im sure at this age the last thing on his list is porn.
> Oh and i doubt Vera has filters, she wouldn't be able to watch
> porn if she did ;)
Exactly!
"What can I do about my teenage son watching internet porn?"
"Buy more tissues."
"Buy more tissues."
It's natural, to an extent. Depends how often you watch it or how much of an impact it makes on you.
It's the same as buying porn mags in the days before the internet, most boys (and some girls) have done it at one time or another. It's natural to be curious, but there is a line you can cross, as with anything.
It's the same as buying porn mags in the days before the internet, most boys (and some girls) have done it at one time or another. It's natural to be curious, but there is a line you can cross, as with anything.
IE child porn which gets passed around my school all the time. Alot of kids in my year are the "stars" of these movies.
doesn't really stop the kid watching porn really. He'll probably have the upper hand (I'm sure theres a crap joke there) in computer know how and disable it somehow. It just seems like the answer was to talk about sex and the sensitive side of things.
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