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This thread arises from a conversation I was having with a group of friends at uni a few days back; the conversation was the average conversation about dating, what you find attractive in someone etc until someone brought up internet dating
Anyway, the point is that two of my friends (one male and one female), both in their early twenties admitted they'd used dating sites in the past
The sites used were the completely free sites such as Plentyoffish and OkCupid. One of them (the guy, perhaps unsurprisingly) had an account on both, while the girl used POF
Now, my male mate being on there is about what you'd expect. He's a decent, friendly, sociable guy but he does lack confidence, especially with new people and approaching women. He's also not someone you'd say was particularly attractive or the sort of person who pays particular attention to his appearance and good grooming
So when he brought it up it was more us giving him banter for it and asking whether it conformed to the image many of us had - ie women who, frankly, you'd expect to not have enough confidence to be on the site, scammers etc. As it turns out, he's apparently been on several dates with some fairly attractive women. Definitely a good effort for him at least. The "traditional" perception of women who have to resort to the online realm to get a date is, once again not unsurprisingly, true, however (after being shown the pictures of the several women he went out on dates on) there were attractive, seemingly normal women on the sites. Women that were on their due to not having time with careers etc to "get out there" and find a date
My female friend is not someone you'd expect to be using the dating sites. She is very attractive, in a traditional way. Also perfectly capable of holding intelligent conversation, "guy" conversations etc and very confident. The sort of girl that's had a decent crop of boyfriends - both long term and short term. Anyway, from what she said, there were plenty of oddballs on the site messaging thinks like "hi, wanna bang" and "wow, ur look amazing". To the tune of getting about 50 messages a day through these sites. But there were a few seemingly normal guys, and she even went out on a date as one of the guys from the site, who she described as charming and in general a totally normal, down to earth person, not even particularly lacking in confidence
There were apparently several people who were also unable to move the conversation about each others interests to anything that allowed them to actually go on a date
So my question to everyone on here is this; would you consider using online dating sites - such as the free sites like POF and OkCupid? Or maybe you have used them already?
It seems the perception of online dating as a last resort is changing to the extent that it's now become the domain of normal people with busy schedules, or those who want to look for people for a long term relationship. It seems that for women (based on my incredible research of speaking to my one friend, I know) the site does allow women to state the sort of man they're looking for with the end goal being to meet in real life for an actual date
I'm not sure whether it's something I'd consider myself, simply because I'm still at the stage where going out and finding girls in clubs/bars/societies is easy enough, and I'm not sure I'm necessarily looking for a relationship, much less a long term one
Anyway, the point is that two of my friends (one male and one female), both in their early twenties admitted they'd used dating sites in the past
The sites used were the completely free sites such as Plentyoffish and OkCupid. One of them (the guy, perhaps unsurprisingly) had an account on both, while the girl used POF
Now, my male mate being on there is about what you'd expect. He's a decent, friendly, sociable guy but he does lack confidence, especially with new people and approaching women. He's also not someone you'd say was particularly attractive or the sort of person who pays particular attention to his appearance and good grooming
So when he brought it up it was more us giving him banter for it and asking whether it conformed to the image many of us had - ie women who, frankly, you'd expect to not have enough confidence to be on the site, scammers etc. As it turns out, he's apparently been on several dates with some fairly attractive women. Definitely a good effort for him at least. The "traditional" perception of women who have to resort to the online realm to get a date is, once again not unsurprisingly, true, however (after being shown the pictures of the several women he went out on dates on) there were attractive, seemingly normal women on the sites. Women that were on their due to not having time with careers etc to "get out there" and find a date
My female friend is not someone you'd expect to be using the dating sites. She is very attractive, in a traditional way. Also perfectly capable of holding intelligent conversation, "guy" conversations etc and very confident. The sort of girl that's had a decent crop of boyfriends - both long term and short term. Anyway, from what she said, there were plenty of oddballs on the site messaging thinks like "hi, wanna bang" and "wow, ur look amazing". To the tune of getting about 50 messages a day through these sites. But there were a few seemingly normal guys, and she even went out on a date as one of the guys from the site, who she described as charming and in general a totally normal, down to earth person, not even particularly lacking in confidence
There were apparently several people who were also unable to move the conversation about each others interests to anything that allowed them to actually go on a date
So my question to everyone on here is this; would you consider using online dating sites - such as the free sites like POF and OkCupid? Or maybe you have used them already?
It seems the perception of online dating as a last resort is changing to the extent that it's now become the domain of normal people with busy schedules, or those who want to look for people for a long term relationship. It seems that for women (based on my incredible research of speaking to my one friend, I know) the site does allow women to state the sort of man they're looking for with the end goal being to meet in real life for an actual date
I'm not sure whether it's something I'd consider myself, simply because I'm still at the stage where going out and finding girls in clubs/bars/societies is easy enough, and I'm not sure I'm necessarily looking for a relationship, much less a long term one
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Vee wrote:
> Sometimes they come over as alright, till you actually meet them
> and they slowly reveal they are human Plankton
I'm including myself as one of those. Not terribly interesting, don't have a lot to say, a lot of people seem to see me as aloof or snobby when infact I'm just compulsively self-controlled.
> Sometimes they come over as alright, till you actually meet them
> and they slowly reveal they are human Plankton
I'm including myself as one of those. Not terribly interesting, don't have a lot to say, a lot of people seem to see me as aloof or snobby when infact I'm just compulsively self-controlled.
Pandemic wrote:
> The free sites I think would be frustrating as you may get every
> Tom, Dick and Hairy
Tom, Dick and Hairy? O_o What kind of dating sites are you using again?
> The free sites I think would be frustrating as you may get every
> Tom, Dick and Hairy
Tom, Dick and Hairy? O_o What kind of dating sites are you using again?
Pandemic wrote:
>you don't actually have to meet up with any of these people if they >seem like human plankton.
Sometimes they come over as alright, till you actually meet them and they slowly reveal they are human Plankton. Yes i am speaking from experience on a few occasions. I think i have learnt my lesson now.
I think i just dont trust anyone any more. No matter if i meet people online or out and about. They all seem to be perfect then slowly they go back to being idiots. I swear i just attract the wrong sort. Which annoys me. Everyone should come with a label, it would make things so much easier.
>you don't actually have to meet up with any of these people if they >seem like human plankton.
Sometimes they come over as alright, till you actually meet them and they slowly reveal they are human Plankton. Yes i am speaking from experience on a few occasions. I think i have learnt my lesson now.
I think i just dont trust anyone any more. No matter if i meet people online or out and about. They all seem to be perfect then slowly they go back to being idiots. I swear i just attract the wrong sort. Which annoys me. Everyone should come with a label, it would make things so much easier.
I would be more then happy to go on dating sites, because at the end of the day you don't actually have to meet up with any of these people if they seem like human plankton.
I have dated a girl I met on the internet before, and although it didn’t end in happy marriage I wouldn’t take it back. There are several sites for this now and I think in the public perception it’s less of a weird thing now if you’ve met someone online.
The free sites I think would be frustrating as you may get every Tom, Dick and Hairy signing up, but one of my best friends met her now fiancée through a site called “mysinglefriend.com”. I think as soon as you have to put some money down you’ll lose a lot of the time wasters and people who live in their parents lofts.
If I wasn’t in a relationship and fancied meeting some new people I’d sign up in an instant. I have looked at the site through her profile and it seems to be full of a lot of good eggs. People who just can’t be bothered with the rigmarole of going to bars or friends parties where you’re just as likely to meet a weirdo.
I have dated a girl I met on the internet before, and although it didn’t end in happy marriage I wouldn’t take it back. There are several sites for this now and I think in the public perception it’s less of a weird thing now if you’ve met someone online.
The free sites I think would be frustrating as you may get every Tom, Dick and Hairy signing up, but one of my best friends met her now fiancée through a site called “mysinglefriend.com”. I think as soon as you have to put some money down you’ll lose a lot of the time wasters and people who live in their parents lofts.
If I wasn’t in a relationship and fancied meeting some new people I’d sign up in an instant. I have looked at the site through her profile and it seems to be full of a lot of good eggs. People who just can’t be bothered with the rigmarole of going to bars or friends parties where you’re just as likely to meet a weirdo.
As a further update, he is now absolutely besotted with this girl (I gather the feeling is mutual) and has already booked his flights for his next trip, on September the 2nd, he also plans on going over there again at Christmas... How he is affording this, we don't know as he is a student who is working 10 hours a week as a lifeguard!
Exactly the same.
Thai wife half the age, he moved over there, used all his money to buy a house and start a business etc, 6+ years later she has a hit out on him apparently, and he has fled to the UK broke.
Thai wife half the age, he moved over there, used all his money to buy a house and start a business etc, 6+ years later she has a hit out on him apparently, and he has fled to the UK broke.
Butch wrote:
> He's alive, he is due back this evening I think. From speaking
> to him, he doesn't want to come home and apparently Russia is the
> best place in the World! Expecting him to come back professing
> his love for this girl and moping around until he can go back
> over there, or she comes here...
Oh dear, this will end in tears. I know a couple of oldies who used to work here who have done this, one now lives in Thailand and the other has brought his Filipino wife back here... both are old enough to be their grandfather :(
> He's alive, he is due back this evening I think. From speaking
> to him, he doesn't want to come home and apparently Russia is the
> best place in the World! Expecting him to come back professing
> his love for this girl and moping around until he can go back
> over there, or she comes here...
Oh dear, this will end in tears. I know a couple of oldies who used to work here who have done this, one now lives in Thailand and the other has brought his Filipino wife back here... both are old enough to be their grandfather :(
McLong wrote:
> This has reminded me to ask about Butch's mate who travelled to
> Russia to meet some randomer he met on ChatRoulette. Have you
> heard from him yet Butch?
He's alive, he is due back this evening I think. From speaking to him, he doesn't want to come home and apparently Russia is the best place in the World! Expecting him to come back professing his love for this girl and moping around until he can go back over there, or she comes here...
> This has reminded me to ask about Butch's mate who travelled to
> Russia to meet some randomer he met on ChatRoulette. Have you
> heard from him yet Butch?
He's alive, he is due back this evening I think. From speaking to him, he doesn't want to come home and apparently Russia is the best place in the World! Expecting him to come back professing his love for this girl and moping around until he can go back over there, or she comes here...
this is the problem for guys who are becoming unsocialble technology now u dont even have to talk to a girl to go owt wif her.
isnt that true>??
isnt that true>??
No one has heard from him from what I see.
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